Abused as a child? WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Question

i was abused a child but have no fear? My friend has a little boy about 1 1/2 and she let him hang with the dad all the time but now she is having a little girl and she openly told her husband he will never be alone with the child... SHE ASK ME WHAT DID I THINK I JUST SAID TRY YOUR BEST TO THINK POSITIVE AND TRUST HIM.

Answer 1

I'm a little bit confused.  Is her husband the father of both the son and daughter?  Also, is she saying that she won't let her husband spend time with his daughter or is it an ex (father of the son)?  

If it is the husband and father of both children, I would say, unless the father gave your friend a reason to doubt him, she would really be doing harm by keeping him from forming a close relationship with his daughter.  It's understandable that people have fears about child predators and all, but she is married to him and just created life with the man.  Her daughter will grow up to be resentful towards her father (and possibly brother) because of the unequal treatment between the two and she may also miss out on that positive male role modeling that every girl should get.  Tell her to keep her eyes open and let them form a natural relationship with one another and react only if something suspicious is truly going on.

Answer 2

I was abused as a child and it took me over 20yrs to realize it wasn't my fault. It was my grand father. my father was also abused as he went to a school called Bryn-y-don. He has never touched me in any way all my life. they say abused becomes an abuser. WHAT A LOAD OF ****. she does need help. My dad was abused by men. say no more

Answer 3

Wow, that is terrible. How does she think that her little girl will grow up healthy and have a healthy view of men if this is what she will teach her daughter. Does she think that her husband is a pedophile? If so what is she doing with him? Doesn't she know that pedophiles abuse boys too?

I was sexually abused as a child and I work hard to teach my daughter that there are good men and bad men and to protect herself. But to teach her that she can trust nobody not even her own daddy, is criminal.

Answer 4

Your friend needs professional counseling before she damages her own children, both the boy and girl, whether dad is actually any kind of a threat or it's all in her mind for whatever reason.