Abusive Coach?

Question

I know that this is the way that all coaches are but im on a 12's team... and i thnk that its starting to scare some of my friends. My coach yells at us to the point that its scary to play, and we find ourselves not trying, because we are afraid of doing something wrong and getting 'the evil eye' from our coach. keep in mind that my teamates are 10-12 years old

Answer 1

watch mr. woodcock

THERES an abusive coach.

Answer 2

Ok, you should have someone talk to her like your parent or something on how they dont agree with her style of coaching. We did that with our coach and she really settled down.

Answer 3

as long as he isn't physically abusing or using derrogatory terms, he's just being a normal coach. coaches yell because they care. they push because they care.

Answer 4

If your coach is not the club director I would bring it up to your parents and then your parents should bring it up to the club director.

When you are 12 it is very important that your coach be patient with you, you are just learning the fundamentals of the game. Bring it up to your parents there is not room for that kind of abuse.

Answer 5

Volleyballz hit some good points. When a coach yells a lot, that tends to fall under one of the 3 category styles of coaching, Command Coaching. Think of this style similar to Bobby Knight the basket ball coach. There are other coaching styles that usually get better results as both Volleyballz and myself already use and understand those approaches. Definitely use your "chain of command" it will yield results. If you or your friends feel uncomfortable approaching the coach directly, its ok to have the Parents approach. but to keep it short, no a coach who yells all the time is not necessarily abusive, although it can be seen that way sometimes.

Answer 6

you should tell your coach that you don't like that. or if your parents don't know tell them.

my coach for my school team is nice. his friend yelled at his team and they lost every game.

and my coaches travel team went undefeated last year because he didn't yell at them.

so either get a new coach or tell ur coach you don't like it.

Answer 7

Don't worry about it, my coach does that too.  He is just trying to make you better and don't take it personally.  Still have fun and relax and maybe even bring it up one day and talk to him about it after practice.  This just picks up the intensity and makes you play better, but don't be scared.  What is the coach going to do if you make a mistake, hit you?  Just ignore the negative things and make your mind positive.  Your coach is just trying to help, right? :)

Answer 8

there are many coaches who had that kind of abusive....

but some are doing it for ur goods.....and others because for showing the "toughness" coach....

for my experience last year I had a woman coach and because I went in her own team without any invitation, neither for my transfer...she was very abusive with me and finally I left on my own....now we are opponents.

But unfortunately the chanpionship had ended!!!

Ok!!! do what do u thing its better for u!!

Good luck!!!!

Answer 9

That's c**p

you can politely tell that A** H*** that you prefer to be treated with the same respect the you are give him or her or you will let you parents know that you don't feel confident playing any more because of the way you been treated on this team . But know that if you take that route you make sure the other kids are feeling the same way  but let your parents know any way. I hate coaches that act like that . If they don't like there job why show up .

Answer 10

is your coach CHIP SCHULTE by any chance

hes my coach and HE  is EXACTLY what you describe.

Answer 11

try talking to him yourself but if that doesn't work get parents involved....volleyball should be fun not scary

Answer 12

That is NOTHING! I had a coach when I was 9 that made us run 15 laps around a very large gym if we miss a ball. Now that is abusive!

Answer 13

that isn't right... it is ok for a coach to yell but not to the point where the kids are scared of the coach. i would talk to someone about it and see wat they say about it cuz then u can have someone else coach for awhile.

Answer 14

anger and frustration is just apart of a dedicated coach.  Look past the yelling and aggravation and just listen to what he's saying.  He obviously cares greatly about your potential

Answer 15

Not all coaches are the same. I am a positive coach that only yells when players talk or bounce balls when I am instructing. On the court during games, I allow players to make mistakes and fix them on their own, I fix them if they can't.

Many coaches feel that yelling works and that is unfortunate. Honestly, I think if yelling worked, we'd see English teachers screaming at students in class about prepositions.

I coach against teams that have coaches like you describe and I feel so bad for those players and you can see a direct connection between their screams and the player's mood. Yelling and screaming during a match only hurts a players self esteem and makes them doubt themselves and others, killing any chance of a good team or individual performance.

Speak to your coach first, then tell your parents about the issue if it doesn't change. Then you parents can talk to the coach, then finally the club director. At any point of time in your life whether you are in college, career, or anything, there is always a "chain of command" and if you follow it correctly, your problem will find a solution. If your parents go to the club director first without you talking to your coach, your parents, and you, will look very bad. It is possible that your coach does not know how he/she is making players feel. A simple talk will communicate that and might fix your problem.

Not all coaches are like this but the ones that are coach that way because they were coached that way and feel that that is the only way to get results. It's not their fault. Case in point, you are already conditioned to think that all coaches are like that I can see from your very first 11 words in your question. If you get coached like this all the time, you will feel that it's normal and if there comes a time for you to coach, guess what? You will yell too.

However, if your coach makes you run for allowing an ace fall between two teammates that are silent as church mice, that is just conditioning. Conditioning only helps you in the long run, by getting you in better shape to win the last match on those long tournament days. You really should have at least gone for the ball anyway. :)