Abusive brother!! help??

Question

my brother is constantly hurting me physically and emotionally! i really don't know what to do! he always punches me, pushing me over!! kicking me when i'm down ( literally) calling me ugly telling me everyone hates me i've soo many scars because of him which includes a burn mark on my elbow because he started to choke me and bash me against a burning tray becuase i wouldn't give him some pizza. he's always blaming things on me! and is just such a prick to me i know siblings fight but i've never come across a brother like this who phyiscally beats the c**p out of his sister! he's a year younger then me but he is so much stronger! he is hurting me so much i've tried talking to my parents but they say they can't do anything! the worse thing for me is he really dosent care how much he's hurting me! does anyone have any advice because i just can't take it anymore!

Answer 1

get help now!

seriously go to a trusted adult and tell them what youve told us

Answer 2

This is real abuse. I suggest you find out the number of an abuse hotline and have them deal with your abusive brother. If your parents say they can't do anything, they need to get some help from a professional and he will help you and your parents deal with your brother. Meanwhile, your brother needs to be taken care of. Good luck.

Answer 3

If you can't defend yourself and your parents won't help at all, I guess you can have one of your friends kick his @ss or get a muscular boyfriend to help you out. If you don't wanna do that, maybe you can talk to the counselor at your school to handle it.

Answer 4

i've had the same issue.

i'm 15, my bros 12. hes always hurting me.

i can hit better than him.

but if i hit him i seriously HURT.

soo i cant do anything about it.

and he strangles me ect too.

tell your school teacherr.

or someone. so he has to take angermanagement classes.

seriously worked for me.

Answer 5

I am so sorry he is doing this to you. He needs to be reported to the authorities because this is assault and battery and downright abusive. Don't allow him to continue this treatment. He needs help regardless of what your parents say. Perhaps he needs some 'cool down time ' sitting in jail for awhile.

I am glad you wrote  so we could give you some tips. Now it's up to you to actually start the ball rolling. I wish you well, don't let him take your life.

Answer 6

Call the cops next time. Then your family will start taking you seriously.  

Answer 7

i don't think he thinks of you as a sister, so don't think of him as a brother, talk to parents about it or anyone you're comfortable with and try to get him in as much trouble as possible!

Answer 8

Get a boyfriend stronger than him to kick his @$$.

Answer 9

slap him silly,he is not u'r brother,he is an animal

Answer 10

Next time he tries to really hurt you like choke you call the police. You are aloud to call the police if you are truely scared. If you call them by your land line you can just leave the phone off the hook and they will find you address and come. Its ok to call the police when you truely scared when they come tell them whats been going on and what happend even if you do get grounded for calling 911  its better then being abused for the rest of you life. Don't be scared to dial that number! They can really help you i met with officers and they told me if i was ever scared about something serious u can call and they will check things out. Lets say when they get there you brother lies about everything! Get proof ready print out what you posted here show them scares and tell them what he did to you for each one! Even if your brother lies about everything i doubt hed mess with you again! Tell the police your worried know that you called them he might kill you then theyll keep a good eye on him.

Answer 11

scare the shxt out of him.

the next time he duz it, play dead.

buts ur parents shud do sumthing.

or how about getting a huge buff bf that wud do sumthing?lol

Answer 12

take a swing at him. if your parents won't discipline him then get a cheap shot at him and make sure it's somewhere it will hurt. eyes most preferrably, nose and mouth second best, and if you're truly desperate, take the nut shot, because that dude sounds like he's got it coming. he's gotta learn not to mess with you and it sounds like you're the only one who will do something about it. if you're too afraid to confront him about it personally, just sabotage his personal belongings. he might not stop hurting you but it may make you feel better to retaliate.

Answer 13

oh my gosh i am really sry trust me i have siblings that do the same! but u kno wats best is try to be nice to him! if he sees u being nice he will be nice to u! and try to give him things he want or buy him things he wants! so he can like u alot more do his chores well anywayz how old is he?? i hope this helps and i am sry 4 wat i am hearing good luck!!

Answer 14

if you're parents say they can't do anything for you, i think that technically they are being abusive for letting it happen. i think you're gonna have to get some outside help or show your brother that you're not gonna take his **** and give him a good kick on his ***... i don't really have much else i can tell you :\

good luck

Answer 15

I would tell your brother that you are calling the cops next time he hurts you since your parents wont pay attention to the fact that he hurts you.  And I would talk to your parents and tell them that if you dont do something and he hurts me I am going to tell the cops there is no reason for this

Answer 16

there's only one thing you could possibally do if you want to stop the abuse, go down to the police but you have to make sure you have bruises,cuts, etc to PROVE that he did this to you, otherwise it could backfire and they could believe him over you. I'm so sorry that this happens to you :(

Answer 17

pepper spray, a taser, or mace, and if he ever lays a finger on you again call the police.

Answer 18

oh honey!

please please tell a consoler at school.  Tell her how serious it is, show the scars.  Or tell your favorite teacher.

you will be alright if you do that, stay strong know that you will be able to move out and life on your own one day and not deal with this anymore.

Also stay away from home as much as possible, stay at friends houses, do your home work, get good grades, and make a better life for yourself.

Answer 19

you should tell him how you feel or put him in ager management class

hope this helped

Answer 20

get help ASAP cuz this is abuse and no one should be treated like that

Answer 21

they can do something they know it tell them its gone too far and your moveing to grandmas or aunt suzies u know

Answer 22

                  He-he not fun, no? I'm there sister. I can only say my brother is 2 yrs older and quite mentally unstable. He's choked me twice and punched  my stomach.

                  What do I do? I hit him where it hurts for men. I yell coward and try to make the biggest scene possible. I also grab something elastic or rough like a magazine and thwak him.        Try it and make lacerations on yourself and show your parents. Nice evidence to convice.

Answer 23

If your parents say they can't, (or it seems won't), do anything, the only way that you can do is go to either the police, family services in your area, or any other responsible adult that you know of. The way he treats you is NOT what should happen, and you can make sure it doesn't happen anymore!:|

Answer 24

This is a bad spot to be in if you can't get any help from your parents. If you were an adult, you could contact a shelter for abused persons. I think there is a hotline at something like 1-800-END-ABUSE. You have to be careful, though, because your parents will probably get mad at you if they think you are trying to involve outside persons in the family's problems. Is there someone at school, or maybe at church who can help you?

As far as emotional hurts, those are just inventions he is making up in his own mind, and you know how much that is worth.  

Answer 25

Since your parents aren't helping, you need to tell a teacher or a relative.  Child protective services should know.  Its abuse on your brothers part and neglect on your parents.  Child protective services won't take you away from your family automatically.  They try to teach and guide parents so the incidents will stop.