Abusive relationship that i cant get over?

Question

okay well , i didnt want to believe it but this boy is abusing me verbally. he told me he loved me and couldnt stop thinking about me . then he told my cousin that all the stuff he said was lies and he never really even liked me and i was a hoe. me and him broke up 4 months ago, i cant stop thinking about him and i still love him, today i asked him if all the stuff he said is true and he said yes, then i said okay i have one question and then i am never ever ever talking to you again- if you didnt like me then how come every time i broke up with you, you would ask me out again. and he didnt answer.

i still love him and i dont know what to do i feel like im going to throw up all the time.

is there anything i can do?!

PLEASE PLEASE help me!

Answer 1

Life gets a little easier when you get older, but at your age guys are usually interested in physical things rather than who you actually are as a person.

I would recommend trying to move on. You will set yourself up for disaster if you continue to go back to anyone who is abusive and has straight out told you that they don't want to be with you.

I know it's hard.. I've been there.

It will get better though as long as you learn to treat yourself with respect.

Answer 2

Ok listen to your self/ do you really want a relation ship with some one that disrespects you. Women that alow a man to controll them have no self asteam.To Love him means you enjoy abuse I think you can do better then that.There is a man out there whom is going to sweep you off your feet take you an treat you rite.I advise you to slow down on this guy get to know your self better.Time heels all wounds and a broken Heart.

Answer 3

*** him once a guy calls you a hoe you know you dont need him move on

Answer 4

Baby-girl know your worth. If this boy (and I do mean boy) put you down to make himself feel like the man he think he should be, then I just have one thing to say,"Happy Trails". Know that you are  fearfully and wonderfully made. Hold your head up and walk proud. He probably kept coming back because he told his cousin he could. Prove him wrong the next time. Stop listening to those songs that remind you of him. It's a new day, so breathe and and walk with a bounce.

Answer 5

Replace the zero by finding a hero.

He is immature.

The fact that he had the audacity to say

those things about you says it all!

Best wishes

Answer 6

As a counselor, I have experience in working on abuse and relationships.  It can be hard to let go of a relationship, even a bad one.  Often the head moves faster than the heart, so your head knows that you need to be done with this, but your heart is still dragging it's feet.  There will be a lot of conflicting feelings in the healing process and this is all ok.  Keep reminding yourself of the reality of the relationship and why it needed to end, remind yourself that you deserve a healthy relationship with someone that treats you with love and respect, remind yourself that you are a worthwhile person.  Cry if and when you need to, journal to let out your feelings, confide in those you trust to vent.  As you do these things, you will heal and it will be less painful.  Consider talking to a counselor if you are having a very difficult time.