Abyone else doing Baby Wise?

Question

I've started reading the Baby Wise book. And I can't be the only person who thinks this is a bit extreme.....For me the book doesn't offer a hope, it tells me that no mater what if I don't raise my baby this way, he'll be a mess later in life. Plus, it gives two extremes and no inbetween solutions.

So, who's doing this? I'm not saying its wrong, I just need some hope that this is a positive way to take care of my baby. Because right now, it's not giving me much hope. I want to know who has done it and how positive it has been for you in your life.

Answer 1

Babywise caused me no end of stress and tears - my baby just would not 'do' what they said he should.  He was a 45 minute napper from 3 months and no matter that I tried everything they said - he would not sleep for longer - I did the feed/play/sleep thing but as he could only stay up for 1 hour until 6 months and would only nap for 45 minutes I had to feed him every 2 hours otherwise he would end up feeding just before nap time which is a definate no no!!  The book is very rigid and you are right about there being no inbetween - it puts all babies in a box and makes you feel like you are a bad parent if you can't get it right.  With my second child - she was a 'baby wise' baby without me even trying.  You have to go with your instincts rather than what a book tells you - I read so many books with my son - all that claimed to no what was best and most of which completley contridicted each other.  There are much better books to read than baby wise that give much better parenting advice and are not so rigid - after my second baby I realised that - all babies are different - my two are complete opposites - and that different things work for different babies - as long as you try and give them some sort of routine - feed/play/sleep is good but instead of worrying about the 3 or 4 hourly schedule just watch your babies tired signs, put them down awake and at night time give them a routine which indicates that its bedtime and time for their long sleep - ie breast/bottle then bath or vice versa then book if they are a bit older then bed - putting them down awake.  If you need to be a bit flexible or things go out the window for the day for whatever reason and you end up feeding them to sleep or the routine just doesn't happen that day Ive learnt its not the end of the world and just get back to it the next day.  All the best - parenting is hard enough as it is without books like baby wise telling you how you are doing it wrong!

Answer 2

Trust your instincts.

Babywise encourages you to think of your baby as the enemy, and undermines your natural instincts.

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