Acceptable marriage?

Question

i've known some one 2 monthes ago, he proved to be the man i always dreamt about, suddenly i realized am in love with him although the very short time ...

he also felt the same about me, and is ready to propose..

the problem is ; he is divorced with a kid !

is it acceptable to start my marital life with a father !

he is not alone, he has a girl, and i have to b not only a wife but also a mother !

is it acceptable?

plz answer me.. he was divorced 2 years ago, his daughter is 5 years old, and am a teacher for the same age, i really like children although this kid is living with her grandmother and there's no way 2 b livibg with her father

Answer 1

There is no way that she can live with her father?  RED FLAG!!  RED FLAG!!!  Exactly what happened that deems him an unfit parent?  That behavior WILL carry over in any marriage towards a spouse.  

I also don't believe that you are a teacher based on the way that you don't know how to spell.  

Answer 2

If you truly love him and want him in your life you have to accept him with the things that are already in his life. But don't rush into things take the time to be sure you want to spend the rest of your life with him.

Answer 3

if u both agree and he has divrced legally,nothing wrong,as long as he accepts u.find out the reason for his divorce,if u can.that kid is an innocent victim and if u marry her dad u will be a mother to her,a noble task.go ahead arrange for the wedding.it needs innerstrength to do this.you are a great woman yea.kudos

Answer 4

It is acceptable but is not the best scenario for you.  You must realize that his little girl is his first priority not you. If you are wiling to be the 2nd class citizen of the house go for it. The little girl will turn into a little ***** by the time she is 10 and you can not even tell her anything 'cause you are not the mom.

If your bf is ready to propose that is very dumb, it seems he has no trouble finding a woman that will fall for all his disadvantages.

Wait three years before you even think about getting marry or better yet find somebody with no kids.

Answer 5

I am curious why he wants to get married after such a small amount of time. No matter how much you love someone you can't possibly know everything about them after 2 months. Do you know why he can't live with his daughter? You need to do a little investigating on your own before you make any decisions.

I am also a teacher! Next time please use spell check if you are going to go around saying you are a teacher, it gives us a bad image when somebody says they are a teacher but their grammar and spelling is horrible.

Answer 6

This is all up to you.  Some people are okay with it, some are not.  But you must know that you will never be number one..and maybe not number two or three,  That his daughter will always come first, and quite possibly the mother of the girl and the grandmother before you as well.