Accepting a gift from my aunt?

Question

I have one aunt that I relatively keep in contact with in comparison to my other family members.. My birthday just passed and she left me a message about taking me to buy me a gift.. I don't know if I feel comfortable accepting the gift.. I feel that I don't deserve it because I've never made an effort to see her even though she lives close to me and I've always blown off family events she's invited me to. What would be a good way to let her know that I don't feel comfortable accepting a gift? I don't want to be rude because she has been nothing but good to me..

Answer 1

Maybe Your aunt just wants to spend some time with you. And she feels the only way to get you to spend the time with her is to pribe you into it by buying you something. If You dont want to spend the time with her, or recieve the gift.... Dont tell her the trueth cause it will hurt her feelings and if she isnt deserving of having her feelings hurt, make something up as to why you cant go i guess. But Maybe You should spend a little time to get to know her... Heaven forbid she pass away and all you can think about is i shoulda spent al little more time.... just my thoughts.

Answer 2

accpet the gift and spend more time with her

Answer 3

I would say a gift is not necessary but I would love to visit with you and maybe take you to lunch.

Answer 4

Tell her how you feel,

Answer 5

Just say "buy me dinner instead"? Then you can catch up and not feel so guilty about not spending time together.  

Answer 6

Be straight with her.  Say, "Listen Aunt X, I appreciate that you wanted to take me to get a birthday gift.  The truth is I haven't been the best niece so I just wouldn't feel right accepting a gift from you, but what if we just spend a day (or a few hours - your option here) together this weekend?"

This might be a good way to mend the fence while clearly making a case to her why you do not want to accept a gift from her this birthday.

Answer 7

Tell her a special gift would be if the two of you went to a Sunday brunch. They you can chat with her and she doesn't need to buy you another gift. It's a really good solution.

Answer 8

tell her that her kindness is enough 4 u

Answer 9

Accept the gift and start to be more friendly towards her.

Answer 10

try suggesting that you too just meet for lunch to "catch up" and that would be gift enough and then you can try to buy lunch or split it and my guess is she will want to pay.  This will satisfy her wanting to do something for you for your birthday and you will feel better because its time spent together and not a materialistic gift.

Answer 11

you need to tell her str8 up how you feel that is always the only way to go about things...ifg you cant express yourself then you should seek help

Answer 12

go and see her and talk to her about it and if she still wants to give you a gift let her she likes you alot apparently and i understand that.

Answer 13

i think it would sound more rude to not accept the gift.

accept the gift and make a better effort to be nice to her

Answer 14

just be like you dont have to get anything for my birthday or i dont want anything for my birthday or something along those lines