Accidentally on purpose getting pregnant.?

Question

Im not going anywhere with this but I want a reality check.

I know a couple of women who said that they wanted a baby so badly that they "accidentally on purpose" got pregnant. They didnt consult their other halves and perhaps knew that their other halves didnt want any.

It goes on far more than I thought. Im pretty sure that these women want a baby so bad that they are prepared to become single mothers in the process.

I know that the right thing to do would be do go and find someone who does want kids but I guess that's hard right at 30 onwards.

Has anyone else done this?

Do you know anyone who has? Whats your stories? What happened?

Answer 1

Women get pregnant for a plethora of reasons, when really, there's only one good reason I can think of: wanting a child. I don't think the women you are referring to really think about the possibility of being single mothers. People who make 'decisions' to accidently get pregnant generally don't put a lot of forethought into it. There's just the assumption that their significant other will stick around, and that if he doesn't, he'll have to pay for it one way or another.

I have known women who have children to keep control in the relationship, and to try to keep their other around. And, I've known some women who get pregnant, on purpose, with their other's consent, for no good reason at all, and can't even take care of the children they already have.

Women can be freakin' dumb. And I think, as a woman, I'm entitled to say that.

Answer 2

Shamefully I can admit that I used to do this. From the age of 16 I wanted a baby. I would tell my boyfriend(s) that I was on the pill so it was ok not to wear a condom. I always took a pill packet with me if I was staying over their place and took the sugar pills only when I was in front of them, so they didn't cotton on that I was lying.

Thankfully, I never got pregnant from this, although I was doing it for about 3.5 years. I was very lucky.

My husband and I now have a daughter and another baby on the way. We were married and then started talking about kids, and I never once lied to him about it. I told him straight up that I wasn't on the pill and so he had to use a condom. So when we decided we wanted a baby, it was great, and I fell pregnant within 2 weeks.

I am very grateful now that I didn't fall pregnant when I was lying about things, as i'm sure it would have ruined my life, which is perfect now.

It goes to show that honesty pays

Answer 3

When I first started going out with my first and current love(I  was 15, he was 16 so ya, that kind of love, we had an understanding of things too kind of), I told him if we ever broke up I was going to get him brutally drunk and rape him and have his kid in the future even if we broke up I wanted his(he said he didn't mind and liked the idea, hehe) about two years later we finally did have an adorable baby boy, but it wasn't planned, we're still teen! lol(but it's cool too) We're not really together anymore but we share a room.

Well that's my story, I would've done the same thing as them... but only from my "boyfriend's"

Answer 4

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Answer 5

This kind of thing is really bad, its unfair on the father, its unfair on the children who are unwanted. I am pretty sure my friend has done this twice with the same man and now she is raising two kids alone considering he was not in a proper relationship with her in the first place and wanted abortions both times. I attempted this last year when I was super-clucky by poking a hole in a condom, I already had a daughter with him too, and yeah I did it but I cant stand lies so I told him about it the next day, he was extremely pissed off with me and almost broke up with me, I took the morning after pill just incase. Stupidest thing ever, shouldnt have done it to the person I love, I knew he wasnt ready for another baby yet and I wrecked his trust for a bit there. I shouldnt have done it, I could have lost him forever and after all that he ended up deciding he was ready to start trying for a second child a couple of months later anyway. If you or anyone you know is considering doing this, dont.

Answer 6

I did accidentally get pregnant-definitely not on purpose.  I don't get why people would lie about taking birth control just to have a baby.  What a perfect way to bring a child into the world by lying.  It is not fair to the unsuspecting dad and not fair to the child.  

My sister in law did that.  She didn't particularly want children, but she did want a husband.  She wanted to get married so bad that she got pregnant and when he didn't propose with that she had another.  Then he must have got the hint and now are married.  That side of the family is just strange.  The thing is that couple rarely spends three days a week with the two kids.  They dump them with the two sets of grandparents usually at least 5-6 times a week because they clearly weren't ready for children.  People should have children for unselfish reasons only-not for manipulative proposes.