Acting Out 5 year old at School and Home?

Question

I have 3 boys 1 of which is living home he is 5 yo.... I am a stay at home mom and my husband works on the road (driving truck)

I dont know what to do!!! he is not listening, you tell him something he does the complete opposite, put him in time out he gets up, spank him an he will cry forever... I cant get him to sit down for a entire meal but he will sit for a entire cartoon...

Take him to the store an he is wanting everything!!! which half the time we leave the store with a child who is screaming cause we didnt get him what he wanted...

NOW it is going on at school... I have recieved calls that he is disrupting the class with noises, hand gestures, tapping his feet... He acts as if he dont want to be there, wont do his work, wont participate with the class... He has even been in trouble for getting physical with a student (pushing them) They have taken away his playground time and has made him eat lunch in class w/ the teacher...

Please someone help me understand

Answer 1

i have a 6 year old son that expressed alot of that same behavior. They put my son in special classes(like special ed but not exactly) so he can get more one on one help and it hasdone alot of help. he still acts up at times and doesnt listen all the time but it is alot better than before. also, your son is young, but you may need counseling for him (he may have behavioral problems. you can have a specialist/dr evaluate him for behavioral problems, add and other behavior type problems and they may be able to suggest options and treatment. hope this helps

Answer 2

Consistency is the key.  YOU have to help HIM understand the world is not run on his term.  That means if he doesn't like what's served at the supper table, he goes hungry or eats it anyway.  If he throws a fit when you're driving down the road, pull over and refuse to go anywhere until he behaves.  Tell him that if he gets in trouble at school, then he's in trouble at home, too, and follow through with it.  If you have to, take away everything he has, and let him earn his things back one by one, with good behavior.  He's not too young for this, I've been there.  If you don't get it in line now, you will be afraid of him later because he will be bigger than you eventually.

Answer 3

I would knock my kids little butt off his body if he was doing this. You say he cried "Forever" if you spank him? Hey, no kid has ever died from crying. Dont put him on medications or anything like that. DONT let him act that way in the store. take him out to the car and give him something to cry about. tell him that he will be going straight to bed once you get home if he asks for one thing at the store.

Answer 4

If he wasn´t like this before, something must have changed and he´s acting out to call attention for himself.  Even negative attention is better than no attention.  Try to figure out what triggered it.  Did his father just leave and maybe he misses him? Instead of going head to head in arguments with a 5 year old, try to be more firm.  Talk to him and tell him there´s new rules.  And the new rule is one wwarning then a consecuence.  But don´t threaten if you won´t fall through.  Punishment can be no cartoon.  No dessert.  No playing outside.   Don´t engage in whatever fight over authority with him or he wins.  Take deep breaths and let most of the things go, just explain to him why it´s wrong, etc.

Answer 5

I wouldn't put him in Special Ed, but I would take him to the doctor and see if he has any mentally brain challenged sort of problems... I was kind of like that when I was younger but my problem was underwear when I was 5.  I didn't want to wear them and I would scream and walk around the house naked for hours... so my mom took me into the doctors and they said it wasn't anything mentally but still they sent me to a type of doctor that like get's inside your head and finds out what is causing the problem... and today I'm am a healthy person with no problems!

Answer 6

Number one, turn OFF the telvision all together.  Number two he is 5 years old not 25 he isn't going to listen it's not in a 5 year old's nature to listen.  Number three, stop taking him to the store with you.  Explain it to him "You don't behave while in the store so you don't get to go.  When you can prove that you can behave the way you're supposed to in the store you won't be going any longer".  Hire a baby sitter for the time you're at the store or get to know the neighbors who have kids and do a swap....you watch their kids when they need to go out then one of them watches your's when you go out.  Number four STOP HITTING your child.  That's why he is acting up in school...YOU have taught him to hit and so he's showing off.  

Stop giving more attention to his negative behavior than you do to his positive.  This is why he is doing these things.  He wants attention and the only way he gets any is when he disobeys or behaves negativly.