Actions do speak louder than words.?

Question

My ex lied to me and emotionally cheated on me with her on line "friend." Then she left me for the guy after we had a stupid argument. She later got engaged to him 2 weeks later. Of course she blamed me for everything. I took it, didn't matter to me because I knew I was not the cause of her deceit and betrayal - she had a choice and she chose the wrong one. Anyway I tried for the longest to reconcile. She said she was confused, she didn't know who or what she wanted, she wanted us to be friends (the unmitigated gall) so I dropped it and the whole situation. Then she IMs me last night. She says I'M not being logical (found that funny). She's still engaged, even calling herself Mrs though no wedding has taken place, telling people she's the happiest she's ever been, yadda yadda yadda...BUT when we briefly spoke last night (IM's) she says she still loves me, still in love with me, that she really misses me, cares for me, etc, etc...a bunch of c**p.

Where is Karma when you need her? Just venting...Thanks for listening.

And the mutual friends that kept relaying her messages of plausible "happiness"...had to cut them loose.

Answer 1

Yes, actions speak louder than words. Maybe she does still care for you and is too ashamed to let her friends know otherwise. Maybe she is so screwed up in her thinking that she wants to ease your pain.

Either way, her actions don't match her words.  And she doesn't understand how *you* were being logical - she's too caught up in her own drama to realize that *she* can't see things as they are.

Good luck to you and your own future happiness. Karma does come around. It caught up with my ex-husband. He constantly threatened that he was going to take me off his insurance before we were divorced, that he was going to drag my name through the mud so that everyone in my town would know horrible things about me, and that he would get custody of our two children. Karma kicked in after the divorce was final - he lost his job, lost his insurance, and had his beloved Tahoe repossessed.

Answer 2

She is self-centered and can't see past her own situation to understand yours. Good move cutting her off. You would never get through to her.

You deserve better friends then that.