Adolescent Behaviors?

Question

I have a 15 year old daughter,and she was sexually assaulted in October of 2007.She was doing great until now...She hasn't been speaking,no matter how hard I try to get her to speak to me,she doesn't say anything about how she is feeling...It worries me.I have tried giving her time,like 2 weeks time and it seems the silence has gotten worse.

She has been like this for3months.I have tried to get her into some programs,but she just wont say anything&the psychologists cant get her to speak too,so I am like stuck.

They say they wont help someone who doesn't want to be helped.I have taken her to the doctors,and the doctor says that she wont speak either to him or the nurses.I just don't know whats wrong with her.I have tried helping her.I have tried talking to her,yelling,hanging out,letting her do her own thing.

Nothing seems to work and I feel like I just cant handle her anymore.Like Im a failure as a mother.What am I supposed to do next?How can I break the silence?PLEASE HELP ME!Thanks

Answer 1

Maybe she doesnt want to talk to someone face to face in fear of being judged, or being told that it was her fault.. She has been through something no 15 year old should never go through. She may be having a hard time dealing with it and is afraid to talk to you in fear that you may judge her.

The best thing that I can think of.. is leave her a number for a help centre, for youth so she can talk to someone over the phone who is trained to listen and not judge. she may feel better talking to someone over the phone as to talking to someone face to face. We all deal with things in different ways and maybe that will be the thing that helps her.

Answer 2

it sounds lik post traumatic stress disorder and you're right to seek help.. the docs are almost violating duty of care in my opinion.. thats jus ridiculous.. the girl needs support and yet they alienate her further.. im 17 and as a child i was abused over a 4 year period.. its a time i never want to remember.. most ppl will never know how that feels.. thank god for that.. your daughter needs your support before this escalates.. get a new psychologist.. where did he/she get her license.. in a weeties box?? turning there backs on your daughter is inexcusable..

Answer 3

i am 17 years old, and when i was 13 i was mentally and physcially and sexually abused by a long term older boyfriend

it was a horribly abusive relationship and it lasted until i was 15 years old, until we finally broke upp

and i finally esacaped this relationship

to this day nobody knows, not my friends, not parents, nobody.

not until last week was i actually able to like hint about this to my new boyfriend, it all came spilling out..

i dont know if this is going to help you out at all, but all i can say is , eventually it will build up SO MUCH itll all come out!

dont give up, dont constantly talk about it, but dont ignore it.

i wish i had a mother helping me like you are.

she isnt ready yet, shell come around eventually

best of luck , ill pray for her honestly.

Answer 4

just be there for her and just keep  talking to her even  if she wont talk to u back. I know how she feels and it's a horrible thing to go through. Dont bring up what happened to her for a long time it's something that she has to work out in her own mind.

I would hate if somebody kept reminding me of what I went through.

Answer 5

Just let her come to you! Maybe just tell her that you love her every chance you get, but don't feel bad if ther is no response. She will get past it, but only with the help of God!!

Answer 6

what about friends, doesnt she speak to them? maybe you could get to her through them or something like that

Answer 7

Maybe she is still recovering. I mean me or u don't know how it feels do be sexually assaulted. I say u should give her some more time to vent.She will come around soon.