Adopt .. need advice !!!!?

Question

i'll be adopting an infant soon locally ( in spore )

, she's now 7 month old in the tummy. I'm quite worried.

as I'm not sure what are the neccessary thing to buy for her. Since the adopting would b costly ( lawyers fees , medical fees), I want to buy only the necessary things. can anyone advice me, and what should i expect from the infant , how to take care of her , or is there any website which provides me the information or support adoption , I need support too , cause not every one accept adopted child .

thanks in advance

Answer 1

QUOTE ........how to take care of her , .......UNQUOTE

OMG and at 7mths inutero  you are just NOW Thinking about how to take care of a newborn 2 mths before she is born IF SHE IS FULL TERM...

Bluddy h**l.. GO TO Some parenting classes

Honestly it makes me cringe to hear this

Answer 2

www.babycenter.com  You can find a bullitin board with great people to answer all the questions you have.  I am currently involved with a board full of great women.  They have helped me through alot.  Good luck.  You will be great, it will come naturally.  Every first time parent has worries and lots of questions.

Answer 3

You'll need a car seat, some onesies and diapers, and formula/bottles.  Baby can co-sleep with you, or in a basket, you don't need expensive cribs or changing tables; just throw a blanket on the floor and change her there (plus it's the safest place; can't fall off the floor!)

A shower is a nice idea, you can register at local stores for the items you need.  

Babies don't have to be expensive.  Go to a consignment store or rummage sales where baby gear is cheap but hardly used.  Babies outgrow this stuff so fast that it barely gets a chance to be used or worn!  (Same for baby clothes).

And, yes, books on child development, parenting classes, check your local clinic or school for an ECFE (Early Childhood Family Education) program for parents with young children.  These are usually free or low cost and have very valuable classes for infant/toddler development and parenting.

Good luck.

Oh, and yes, be very honest with your adoptee about her origins, never lie about the adoption or withold information, if you have chosen an open adoption please PLEASE honor it, for your child's sake.  Your adoptee will respect and love you MORE if you are open, honest, and show respect toward her biological family.

Answer 4

you should be worried.  becoming a parent takes a lot.  but it's all worth it if you're ready for anything.  honestly you should have worried about these things long before starting an adoption process.  buy parenting books, find a pediatrician, take some classes and get some sleep now because you won't get a good night's sleep for the next 50 years or so.

as for people in your life that don't accept an adopted child, to h**l with them.  you don't need them in your child's life.  in my opinion the best you can do for the child, if it's possible is let them know their bio family as well.  do not keep it a secret, talk to you child early on.  but don't make it the story every day every minute.  never speak poorly of the other mother, or allow anyone to speak poorly of her or the other father.  it doesn't matter if the child is around or not.  speaking bad of the bio parents and family is speaking bad about your child.  it's who they are, they can't help it.   read through here and learn what you can adopt adoptees and what really matters to them.  

the bes advice i can give is to be honest, open and keep as much of a relationship with the bio family as possible.  and most of all enjoy that child, no matter.  this will be your own child.

Answer 5

have a baby shower! just because you aren't the one carrying the child, you still need things. you can call it a 'welcome to the family party' if you want.

Answer 6

wow...no comment...oh wait..you should have sorted all this out prior to now..and not everyone accepts this child...I already feel bad for this baby...she's not like buying a puppy..you buy it..then get home...and say...well now what...you learn all you need to learn prior to the event..good luck

Answer 7

As long as she has clothes, food, diapers, and place to sleep she will be fine! Get some books on children, and seek support from friends and family! Most of it will just come to you naturally! Good Luck and Congratulations on your new baby girl!!

Answer 8

Start reading parenting books.  Also, try babysitting other people's children to get you somewhat used to it.  If you aren't ready, wait to adopt until you are.  Children are alot of work and very scary if you don't knwo what you are doing. See if you can get a good friend or family member who has had a child to help you, especially the first few months.