Adopted Child looking for her Birth Mother?

Question

I was adopted at birth and my natural mother was 16 yrs old, which is all I know about her. I was born at 11:56pm at Orando Regional Medical Center (Orange Memorial back then), I am a 44 yr old female with major health issues and may need a liver transplant, I was born on Oct. 23, 1963.

Where can I find free assistance in locating my birth mother?

Answer 1

Hi Liz,

I'm so sorry about your health issues. I hope you will be OK.

There are a number of steps you'll want to take. I don't know if you've done any or all of these yet, so apologies in advance if I'm giving you information you already know.

First off, if you haven't done so already, you should register at ISSR in the chance anyone is searching for you. You can find the ISRR website FAQs at

http://www.isrr.net/faq.shtml

You should also check out the laws of the state of Florida here. This page also has information on the official Florida registry, and information on petitioning the court

http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?...

Also, you can register here as it is a pretty popular site.

http://registry.adoption.com/

The registries aren't very well publicized, so there will be legwork you'll need to do on your own. The Finding in Florida group will be able to help you with that.

Finding in Florida

http://www.findinginflorida.org/

They have a companion mailing list  at

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Finding-in...

Good luck!

Answer 2

To both you and Jenn M, listen to what Theresa and Lillie have to say. That's the way.

Answer 3

First of all, were you adopted through an agency, or an attorney, or..?  You can start by requesting your non-identifying information, if you haven't already.  Sometimes you might get enough information from that to conduct a search yourself.  

I don't know of many individuals or organizations that will do it for free; there are the costs of maintaining databases and such that force them to charge a fee.  But, there are "search angels" that will help for free.  Go to adopteerights.net and scroll down the page, there should be a listing of search angel resources for each state, hopefully Gershom has some for Florida on there.  

If you were adopted through an agency, contact them and inquire if there is any information in your file...perhaps your mother has contacted them as well and left letters, etc.  Or, perhaps they will do a search for you to get her permission for contact.  Going through the agency isn't the best way, but sometimes it's the only way.  It's how I had to do it to locate my mother (note: I did have to pay my agency about 575 dollars to do the search, but that was a different state, and fees vary from agency to agency and state to state).  Same with if you were adopted through a lawyer...he or she may not still be in practice 44 years later, but the files should be around somewhere, do some detective work and see if you can locate who has them.

Good luck...I hate that our records are held hostage from us.

Answer 4

Our daughter wanted to find out information about the health of her parents also before she had health issues. My wife and I went to the county records department with just her birth date and the hospital we knew she was born in, within a short time and a fee, her birth mother was found.  The sad part was that her birth mother had a massive heart attack two years after they found each other.

Start at the records department in the county you were born, you'lll probably get information you need there to find other ways to find your birth mother. Good Luck- remember and prepare yourself for some ups and downs, it's not easy, but with the right people you'll find what you want and need.

Answer 5

why donen't u try asking ur step parents abt it they may kno some inf abt it

Answer 6

I'm not sure how to tell you to go about finding her but I wanted to let you know that I'm going through the same thing with a search for my BM and I'm looking for all the help I can get as well. I hope you find her and please know that there are other ppl out here dealing with the same things. =)

Answer 7

One of my best friends was adopted. She doesn't really  want to know a lot about her birth mother. She's perfectly happy with her adopted parents.

Try going to the hospital and look up your record. You're lucky you know about your mother.

And remember, you don't have to know about your natural mother to be happy.

Just go to the hospital and ask them to see your hospital records. They'll show you because you're allowed to see your records. So just go there and they'll show you.

Answer 8

I am no expert, but it will probally take longer to find your BM than to try to find a donor. Start there, then when you are healthy, start searching again.

               Best of Luck