Adopted kids have more issues?

Question

i read in my pscychology book that adopeted kids have alot of emotional problems.

agree or disagree?

Answer 1

Absolutely AGREE.

(Sunny said it all)

Answer 2

I disagree. I think it depends. I was adopted and had a crappy childhood but now as and adult and a mum to 5 and happily married for 14 yrs . I never knew any one else who was adopted growing up and some of my old friends from school ended up in jail. It depends where you want your life to go. It doesn't matter if you were adopted or not or how crappy your upbringing is , it is how you choose to live your life.  :)

Answer 3

i think they are a little bit more emotional because of the fact that their parents left them or died. i know they don't like talking about it or having anything reminding them of it. i think they are happy tat they have someone that loves them not, but their past is hard for them. i think it varies with different people. personally i think they should just rejoice that they have some one that loves and cares for them. hope i helped!!

Answer 4

Having quite a number of adopted friends, I have to agree.  Some of them had terrible relationships with their adoptive parents, some of them good.  But good or bad, it's like they always knew that something was missing - none of them seemed to have the bond that biological kids do and it clearly had an effect.  Most of them did not know the circumstances behind their adoptions and were left with the damaging effects of always wondering, "Why was I given away?"  

Even in their adult lives, it is clear that they are missing something and that the feeling of abandonment has never completely gone away.  They are left to forever wonder about their birth parents.... who they were, what they were like, why did they give their baby away, are they still alive, where are they now, the list goes on.

I'm not saying that adoption is bad - in fact, adoption is necessary and if possible, I hope to eventually adopt a child.  But I will go into it with the clear knowledge that even though the child may love me with all its heart, that it may never be able to look at me the way it would its natural parents.

Answer 5

I was adopted and I don't feel that is true.  I have met my birth mother and I don't like her.  Not because she gave me up.  I am glad she did.  I have a saying, "If you are happy where you are, you can't regret anything that happened before"  Everything you have done or gone through makes you the person you are.  I think with some people it might be an issue.  But it is not the case with me.

Answer 6

I think that from the extra trauma of loss that we, adoptees endure from losing our first families and some of us have more loss ontop of that ( abuse etc. ) that it gives us more issues to face in life.

How we deal with those issues is what determines the outcomes of our lives. Its possible to find a strength and heal from them, and learn how to live with them in our everyday lives so that it doesn't effect our every step.

Answer 7

DISAGREE!!  it is very possible for an adoptee to take control of their emotional state and deal with anything that may befall them -- just like a bio is supposed to do.

I do think that some adult adoptees want to use their adoptee status as a crutch or reason for anything that may happen to them though.

Answer 8

AGREE.

But it's not really a matter of opinion.  It's fact.  Adoptees have higher rates of addiction, teen pregnancy, eating disorders, and trust/relationship issues.  We are more likely to become serial killers at 17 times higher than the national rate.

You just can't expect most people to be separated from mother and family, be raised with strangers, and not allowed to know about their origins to just fall into line.  It takes its toll on many.

Here are articles & sites that cite these problems:

http://crimemagazine.com/07/adoptionfore...

http://www.angelfire.com/or/originsnsw/w...

http://www.origins-usa.org

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.com

http://www.theadoptionshow.com

Answer 9

depends on the child. I was adopted, Personally the only issues I have is I have no respect for my bio-parents and the abuse I endured when I was with my ex. (from him and his mother) But clear until that I was a normal girl

Now some adoptee's have abusive parents that will have problems.. always it depends on when they where adopted later in life means worse

Foster kids that where adopted have it worse then someone adopted from birth. the older the child is the more likely the adoptive parents dont treat them right

Answer 10

Agree, and Sunny gave you great links.

Answer 11

I feel they have alot of issues. But I feel that foster children have more. just think adoption at least you are wanted, foster children just know there her for awhile and could move any time.

Answer 12

In some ways yes, and some ways no. One of my daughters friends is adopted, and it has no affect at anytime! When the girls talk about stuff your biogical parent only knows, like ''how old was your mom when she had you'' she just says dont know. I think no because if they have parents who love them and care about them, they are perfectly healthy.

But, if they grow up in a home that is not anything I said, it could end up in some problems...

Answer 13

agree **with commentary

Hopefully your book said a lot more then this one sentence and hopefully "emotional problems" are defined.

Whenever a person is different  then the majority they may suffer emotional problems...

Adoption is a fact a child will deal with and process in different ways as they go through life and there may be times when adoption is more of an issue then other times.

"Emotional problems" in the terms of psychology means more to deal with. A bio child doesn't have the problem of dealing with adoption as a personal issue therefore the adopted child does have more emotional problems then the someone who wasn't adopted.

The majority of us don't ever sit there and have the "What if?" questions that an adopted child does... And that is another emotional problem.

Just like a child raised in a two parent family has fewer emotional problems then a child raised in a divorced family...

It is also very important to remember that Every Adoption starts with a loss so the adopted child may have emotional problems surrounding the loss of their biological parents, even if that is only ever felt as fantasized stories...

Answer 14

Absolutely.

Logic dictates that when a person loses his/her ENTIRE family, and has his/her identity erased, and is further forced to pretend that it doesn't matter because society shoves the "be grateful you weren't aborted c**p" down adoptees throats, uh yeah you bet there are gonna be issues.

Answer 15

its the sense that the child grows up with the fear that they were adopted and wasn't never informed or told that they were adopted that these children grow up with emotional scars and have problems a child needs to know his or hers background because of medical reason personal reason emotional reason there are alot of reasons children need the support of adoption groups self help groups and support from the adopted family