Adopted ppl?

Question

I'm adopted adn met my bmom a while ago im 13 and am scared she wont write

Answer 1

That fear is normal...  I'm 36, met my first mother over the summer, and even though we've developed a good relationship, every time a few days pass without hearing from her, I begin to get nervous.

Only time will tell how your relationship with her will develop.  It can be quite a rollercoaster ride at times.  I hope you can find someone (or some people) nearby to talk to about this.  Perhaps you and your aparents could find a support group nearby?

Good luck.

Answer 2

I'm 15, and though I haven't met my bmom, we've written each other a bit. I'm scared of the same thing too. I wrote my birth mom a little while ago and I'm terrified she won't write back. I want her to want me, I want her to want to be in my life, I want her to love me so much that she puts me first in her life." She's my mom, wouldn't that be normal?" is what all of me is screaming.

Reuniting is a hard road, but I hope the best for you. In the meantime, definitly check out www.adultadoptees.org . I'm a member over there, and its a very welcoming place! Hope to see you there.

Answer 3

Hey, I found out (by accident) that I was adopted and that happened when I was 42 years old! I found out where my birth mom was and that I had a 1/2 brother and sister as well. Thought it was going to be candy canes and rainbows, big reunion and all that. I wrote in mid December... no response, so I called on New Years Day. Big mistake, my birth mother wanted nothing to do with me, asked me to never contact her again. My brother was a jerk when I talked to him said "I will protect my mother" I said: "you idiot, she's my mother too, I am just as much blood to her as you are!" My sister refused to talk to me at all... So, if things don't work out for you don't be surprized. Other people I have talked to who are adopted and found their real Mom had much the same story. Sad... but true...

Answer 4

She might be scared about the same thing. You have to remember that she gave you up for adoption, not vice versa.

I was 15 when I contacted my birth father. That was 12 years ago. I have still not met him. Your birth mom is lucky you want to have contact with her. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about.

Answer 5

Being an adoptee... I've never met my bmom and I've been searching... I found her address but not quite sure if I really want to write her or not. with the same fear you have. But thing of it is... don't be scared what is the worst that could happen she doesn't want anything to do with you. But there are some cases that she'll want you back in her life. I know this isn't much help.... But good luck in whatever you decide on. Also, remember you have parents that adopted you and probably love you more than if you were their own flesh and blood.

Answer 6

i was scared too.

As adoptees we have that overwheming sense of abandonment and rejection. It reflects almost every aspect of my life and I am 27 years old.

I would be scared too.

Get yourself a good support group. come on over to http://www.AdultAdoptees.org I hear they may possibly be opening up a new teen section very soon. Until then and afterwards I'll totally be a shoulder to lean on for you. What I would have done as a 13 y/o to have an older adoptee to express my feelings to and find validation.

Work up some courage and pop on over to us, write that letter and mail it only when YOU are ready. As adoptees, we have to prepare ourselves for anything, even rejection. And in adoption that happens alot.

Here for you!