Our son just turned 4 years old and came to us in June from adoption. His birth-mother was 16 and unable to cope with him from birth, but he then spent time with a foster family who were unable to adopt him when he became eligiable, which is when we came in to the picture.
He was removed from his birth mother too young to remember her at all, but then started to call his foster mom "Mommy" when he began talking.
Now he is with us, we wanted him to call us Mommy and Daddy which he is doing just fine, but often he asks for "Mommy" which is his ex foster-mom. We say to him "Mommy Kathy" to differenciate her from us, which he is starting to say, but at what point can we drop the Mommy from her? Is it even OK to do so? Is it even OK for US to be mommy and daddy?
He was with her for almost 2 years being fostered.
I am really confused and worried about doing the wrong thing.
We see Mommy Kathy every few weeks as she likes to know how he is doing.
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