Adoptee question?

Question

I was adopted when I was a baby. I would like to do a little research about my adoption, but I don't feel comfortable about asking my parents. Is there any way to find out information about (me) being adopted online? In Alabama? I'm 18 and would like to know. Please help! Thanks!

Answer 1

Good luck with your search and I would go through past questions posted here. There are a lot of people going through the same process.

Why do you feel uncomfortable searching for your birth parents? I would talk to your a- parents, they may be able to help and support you emotionally through this journey. At least they should.

Answer 2

Well, if you're trying to avoid a "squall fest" it's much more understandable why you'd not want to ask your parents (you didn't say which set of parents- birth or adopted).

If you were adopted through an agency, talk to the agency.

If it was a private adoption, talk to the lawyer who drew up the papers.

If your prior squall-fest means you can't get hold of a copy of the original adoption papers, you can talk to your minister or a school official to intercede with the parents on your behalf.

Keep in mind that there may have been some very personal family problems that caused you to be adopted, and this might account for the squalls.  I know a family who adopted their grandchild as a toddler because both the young parents were on and off drugs, and the mom's prior kids had all been taken away due to recurrent drug usage.  Your adopted parents may be trying to protect you from  knowing some things they consider to be "dirty family secrets" !  Good luck.

cw

Answer 3

Alabama is one of the few open records States.  You can request copies and you don't need your parents' permission (not that any adult should need their parents' permission anyway!)

Good luck

Answer 4

*ETA: Luckily I was mistaken. Adult adoptees do have access to their records in Alabama. Best of luck in your search!

I kept everything related to our son's adoption, and his first mom kept everything she got from the hospital and copies of legal paperwork as well. They are his when he wants them. Your parents might not be as adverse to giving you these things as you may believe.

Answer 5

You know what? My adopted mom felt the best when I asked her personally instead of trying to find out on my own.  Its all about the way you ask.  Like, I hope you know that you are a great mom and I am so glad that you adopted me and knowing that I am adopted wont change my love for you, but I was curious about finding some things out about my adoption, and was wondering if you could help?

Answer 6

i was adopted... the only FREE way is to find a foster care agency, or adoption agency and tell them you would like some information regarding your adoption as a child and ask them for help...

online, is never really correct and they make you pay and its frustrating!

also you can go to the court house and get an origional copy of your birth certificate!!!

i hope i can help.. i was adopted also..

good luck and i pray you find out about your parents

Answer 7

Your in LUCK! Because you were born in Alabama you can get copies of your original birth certificate, unlike 44 other states that seal birth & adoption records and don't allow adoptees access to their own information.

Check the following web site to aid you in your search:

http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?...

As for discussions with a.parents, YOU know what's best in that arena. Don't let others tell you how you should handle your search & reunion.  As an adult, you have the right to associate with whomever you choose. You don't need your parent's "permission".  Hopefully, they will realize that they aren't going to loose you because of your desire to find out your own story.  It's not uncommon for parents to feel threatened, insecure, fearful.

Best wishes!