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Adoptees, have you ever thought about...?

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Taking the name on your OBC or the name given to you by your first mother, or her surname, something along those lines, as part of your name now?

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  1. I'm not an adoptee, but as a PAP, our plan is IF we decide to change our child's or childrens' names, they're just going to have really long names.  They'll have their original name sandwiched between the first name we give them, and the last name we give them.

    It's my feeling that changing their names would be taking away a part of who they are.


  2. No I would not take back my birth surname or attach it my name in any way.  I don’t plan on ever changing my surname unless I get married one day and even then I might just opt to keep my surname and not take my spouses.

  3. I changed my surname back at 24.  It's been my name AGAIN for nearly 20 years.

  4. Yes, I have thought about it.  I'd like to discuss it with my n-mom, though, before I do it; I'd like to get her blessing.

  5. "illegitimate baby girl XXXXXX"

    nope sorry not for me. LOL!

    lori did not name me, but she had a name she called while she was pregnant-rachael

    i got this nickname years before i met her. it was a joke about how my real name didnt suit me i looked more like-a rachael. and it stuck.

    very odd if you ask me, but kind of cool. imagine my surprise when she told me what my name would have been. i almost fell over

  6. I actually have my full birth name.  The orphanage said I had a tag with my name & birthdate on it which shows me somebody who had to make that decision to 'leave' me cared.  My parents decided to keep it..they hyphenated my first & middle name to become my first name.  Then made my birth last name my middle name & then just took on my family's last name.

    To be honest I HATED it growing up because my name all together just sounded wrong.  I'm glad to have it now as it's my name & they didn't take that away from me.

  7. I'm not adopted. But my opinion is, your birth parents didn't want to raise you, (I don't want to sound harsh, because in some circumstances they have no choice) so why would you want to be a part of them.

  8. My full legal name is my full legal birth name (given to me by my natural parents.)  I have added my husband's last name to it via hyphenation.

  9. No way! I'm changing my name when I get the money its budist and I'm christian too! Besides my birth mother never loved me and could never love me like my mom! I call my adoptive mom my REAL mom because she loves and cares about me!(Cookie is my nickname and name I go by at school).

  10. I have it.  My real mother named me Heather and my adoptive parents didn't change that (I love them for that, they are the BEST)

    I'd love to know my surname at birth but that is a State Secret, sealed and locked away just because I was born out of wedlock then adopted by someone and the stigma of the b*****d is alive and kicking in the USA - apparently they can't trust b*****d 'children' with their own name, even when they reach middle age!

  11. my middle initial is the same as my ndad's surname. I have thought about changing it.

  12. no never, it would feel really weird

  13. No.

  14. Sort of.  I have used my original surname as part of my name, but not in a legal context.  (Sorry to be so vague; it's kinda private.)
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