Adoptees, have you read these books? What do you think?

Question

http://www.tapestrybooks.com/Default.asp?c=185244

I just saw this link on another question, and some of the titles make me want to gag. But, not wanting to judge a book by its cover (HAHA!!!) I thought I ought to ask you what you think.

Answer 1

I really liked "The Primal Wound."

Not because I agreed with the author's conclusions [she is very defensive], but because she asked really tough questions.

A lot of the adoptee's stories are very insightful.

Answer 2

Uh yeah. Most of the titles are so candy coated just reading them made my teeth ache.

I'm all over this one though, A Parent's Guide to Developmental Delays: Recognizing and Coping with Missed Milestones in Speech, Movement, Learning, and Other Areas . Not because of adoption but because my daughter is displaying signs of Autism.

Books help, support groups help, professionals help, what helps most is people who actually give a d**n about the issues surrounding adoption and who are willing to look at all types of support. People who are willing to look at the good and the bad and make their own choices based on what works for them. I have read so many books about so many topics but the ones I go back to are the ones I felt a connection to.

If you are cut out to be a good AP you will be regardless of how many books you read, the books can only guide you if you allow them to and a bad book won't guide anyone smart enough to see past the c**p between the covers.

Answer 3

Gaia,

I have a couple of children's books on adoption that you might like. One is Tell Me Again About The Night I Was Born by Jamie Lee Curtis. This story doesn't really jibe well with either of our stories since you and I both adopted from foster care, but the general premise works. At the very least it can open a dialog about adoption with you and your child.

The other is A Mother for Choco. My cousin (who adopted both of her boys) recommended this one to me and my son still loves it. The characters in the book are animals rather than people and it illustrates that people can look different and still be a family. Simple but cute and can also open a dialog.

Aloha,

Tara

Answer 4

The Adoption Mystique is a must read for anyone who genuinely wants to change adoption for the better in the USA

And no, it's not anti-adoption.  It is very balanced and discusses issues that all members of the 'triad' have to face in adoption

Some of the ones for the kiddies, I wouldn't touch with a bargepole though - ick

And the one about how to 'Adopt Quickly and easily' begs the question 'what about ethically?) LOL

Betty Jean Lifton wrote a great kiddies book 'Tell me a Real Adoption Story' - I don't see it on your list though