Adoptees: Did your birthmom name you?

Question

Did your birthmom or dad give you a name? If so, did your adoptive parents keep it or change it? Which do you like better, or does it matter to you?

Answer 1

Yea mine was Michellin but I think she named me that to get even with her father who worked for a tire plant.  My parents considered but they thought it was too odd.

Answer 2

My twin boys' mother died shortly after childbirth and they were named by the hospital. It was P day in the hospital, so they were names Peter and Paul. We changed their first names,  but kept their surname as their middle name.  I would have no problem with them changing their names back to Peter and Paul if that is what they would like to do one day. My feelings are a rose is still a rose by any other name....

Answer 3

I was Baby Girl.  Good thing my aparents changed it.  Mom says she wanted to name her daughter that ever since she was a little girl.  Turns out that it is my bmom's sister's name too.

Answer 4

Yeah my bithmom did.

My name was Yleana and my adoptive mom changed it to Roxanna. Im so thankful :P

Answer 5

I'm not adopted but my four siblings all are, and although my three brothers' brithmoms named them, we changed my sister's name to something slightly different (Leslie to Lindsey)

Answer 6

My birth mom gave me my first name which is supposed to be my fathers last name, and my adopted parents kept my first name as they really liked it alot...

Answer 7

Yes, and was it a darned good thing since she and my ndad raised me for the first 13 months of my life!  I spent some time in foster care after that, then was adopted.  I was not removed by CPS.  My parents relinquished by their own decision following some bad events that occurred in our lives.  They didn't want me to have to live with the results.

My aparents did change my first name (and my last name of course) it when they adopted me at two years of age.  Although I'm glad I got adopted, I was never happy about having my first name changed as a toddler.  I was always aware that it had been changed and preferred my original name.

Answer 8

We had the honor of meeting our daughter's bm after she had given birth, and before our daughter was placed with us (daughter was in Foster care, 3 1/2 weeks, born early)........since she had to name the baby in the hospital before checking out, she gave her a name "quickly" that had no significant meaning other than her middle name and the month our daughter was born.I realize that this may have significance to our daughter at some point and time.  We asked her if she would mind our changing the name, and she said no. We did, however, name our daughter with a derivative of the middle name of her bm.

We were not trying to take anything from our daughter. We simply knew what her name would be, and we are fine with our decision. Her original records are not available to her (our state law), however, we have all of that information documented in her Lifebook.

There may come a day when our daughter wants to change her name back to her given name for whatever her personal reasons are at that time.......... If that is her wish, then we will try our best to honor that decison, and put our feelings aside for her.

Answer 9

One of my daughters was 10 years old when we adopted her, and one was 10 monhs old.  We kept their first names the same, feeling that was who they had been for their lifetimes, and to change it would not be good for them.  

However, we did choose new middle names for them, which was good for us to have a part in naming them.

Answer 10

ya my real mom named me Adidean and my twin sisters real name is Adina but since we were adopted when we were 2

Adina changed it to Dina and i changed it to Dean

Answer 11

My children's birth mother gave them a name. I kept part of the name and added to it.  I gave them a name with a meaning such as Gift of God  and Hope and Faith

Answer 12

yes she named me Erica.  I was adopted and then named Nancy after my adoptive mother.  I am glad I am Nancy.

Answer 13

My birthmom named me Heather.  My adoptive parents kept my name.  That's all I have left of who I was.

Answer 14

Yes, she named me after someone who died in a car accident. I like it enough. I would have hated if my adoptive parents had changed it. I find it hard enough to deal with the fact I have a different surname.

Answer 15

When my birth mom named me she had named me Halinna, my adoptive parents named me Rochelle. I Like Rochelle better, [He** Lee Na] was just plain weird. (my mom is 14 years older then me) we have met a few times

Answer 16

My brithmom named me.

She loved my name, and I didn't have a dad ):

Answer 17

Im not adopted but my friend is. He was 10 months old when he was adopted, but they named (or re-named) him.

Answer 18

My birthparents named me Lindsay, then my adoptive parents changed it to Elizabeth. I like Elizabeth better, but it doesn't matter too much to me.

Answer 19

I did not name her because we were told that in all likelyhood that her name would be changed.  She left the hospital as Baby Girl but in her journal I wrote the name that we had discussed.  It is completely different then the name that was agreed upon.  Her name is common.  There is nothing wrong with it but in a sea of people there would be 3 others with the same name.  The name we had for her was as unique as she is.

Answer 20

My birth dad gave me my first name after someone he knew and my birth mum gave me her best friend's name as my middle name. My adoptive parents changed my first name, but kept my middle name. I prefer the name my aparents gave me, but kinda feel bad for my bdad that they changed it.

Answer 21

No i was not named by my geneticdonor. I was over a month old before the foster care system told my parents, then foster parents that they had to name me.  I cant say i care for my name because its just so common i'd have rather been named something unique but not overly strange. My middle name is after my dad's sister.

Answer 22

my birthmother didnt name me. they wanted her to, but she refused. she felt that if i didnt have a name it would be harder to find me. and i think she was afraid she would try to. she wanted me to take the lead in the search (which i did, years later)

when she was prgnant with me called me rachael. that is what she would have named me. now thats not my name i was given by my parents. but over the years i had people tell me my name didnt "fit" me. so they would say you look more like a rachael. so i took it and ran with it.

i had no idea i had any connection with this name until i found her. i had been using it if i went out and some guy was hitting on me or if i went to the bar, it was an ongoing joke.

imagine my surprise when i found out that would have been my name. my birthmother and i had a good laugh and eerie conversation about that. as you see, i still use the name rachael on a regular basis. not in my everyday life, but i use it often.

it does matter to me. i like my i have but rachael is very dear to my heart.

Answer 23

I didn't name my baby, she was baby girl. I was told not too. I think she was disappointed that we hadn't named her. I think if I had named her that would of meant she was mine. I hope that makes sense. I spent a lot of years trying to 'get over it', I think if I had named her it woulkd have been more difficult.

Answer 24

I am not adopted.

Three adopted friends I know of:

One's mother gave him a name,

The other two kept the name.

Does not matter to any of them, regardless of nationality. The one with the changed name knows his other name and appreciates it.

Answer 25

I had a nametag that I guess was my 'birth name' so my parents decide to keep it.  They put my first & middle name together to make my first name & my birth last name was put as my middle name.  I hated it growing up because my named paired with an already unusual last name just sounded terrible together.  It's so hard for people to remember so everybody calls me by a nickname now...

Answer 26

Nope. Until I was three months old I was called baby girl.

My mom never thought she was allowed to name me. She was told over and over that my name was my parents choice to make.

Answer 27

She didn't name me.  I much prefer "Laurel" to "female."  (-:

Answer 28

I named my baby that was to be adopted with a first name that I picked, with her adoptive mother's middle name as her middle name.

My husband was not named by his birthmom.  

(Sorry if I'm offending you by answering since this is directed at adoptees.)

Answer 29

My parents named me Elizabeth. My adopters changed it to a name that was very in vogue in the '70's. I almost hate them for that.

Adopters have NO right to change a child's name. No right at all.

Answer 30

My adoptive parents named me.

Answer 31

My birthmom named me. My mom liked it so she kept it. I wish she would have changed it cause I don't really care for  it. But I guess 2 mom's can't be wrong.