Adoptees - Do You Consider your Adoption a 'Miracle'?

Question

Adoptees - Do You Consider your Adoption a 'Miracle'?

Answer 1

No, I don't see it as a miracle at all.

Answer 2

no, not at all. There is nothing miraculous about losing myself, my family, my mother, my siblings, my clan, my favorite everything and getting put into foster care for 6 months.

There is nothing miraculous about all of the loss that had to take place in order for my aparents to adopt me.

Painful, yes. sad, yes. loss loss and loss some more? yes.

I can see how my aparents would be "thankful" that they finally got a baby they'd been trying for for years. But for them to annouce it as a miracle would hurt me because that would be a denial of all of the pain I live with in order for their "miracle" to take place. They are the ones who gained. I would have been fine with my mother.

Answer 3

I have seen miracles in my life.  My abrother surviving his traumatic brain injury, the moments I shared with my a-mom in the days before her death.  Miracles, to me, are events that defy explanation; that bring me great inspiration and peace; that can only be brought about by a higher power.

I don't think my adoption is any of these things.

Not to say that my aparents weren't wonderful, beautiful people, nor to say that my life wasn't just as wonderful.  But I know that my n-parents could easily have raised me, I know that my n-mother was targeted because of her age and marital status.  I know that I could have went to any of a dozen or more adoptive parents; it wasn't a miracle that sent me to them, it was just chance; the chance that they were the first on the list the day I became available.  Had someone else been the first couple, I would have went to someone else.  

That, to me, is not divine intervention, but rather pure circumstance.

I was fortunate to have a great family, but no, I can't attribute it to any miracles.

Answer 4

No, because I believe that a birth is a miracle but then again I have two very wonderful people that adopted me.  They had to go to court and everything because the social worker told my mom she would rather see me grow up in foster care than with two white people. Well the day we went to the court house to finalize everything and she was there, that social worker never stepped foot into that court room. So, i guess you could call it a miracle that she came to her senses. I know that the word "miracle" is touchy. So, I try not to use in describing adoption. I don't want to hurt any ones feelings.

Answer 5

Adoptive parents' 'miracle' is built on my tragedy.  It mocks my losses, and reminds me of the powerlessness of my position in the adoptive home.

It's a thoughtless thing to say, and a cruel label to slap on a kid who has lost so much before he was adopted and began to fill his 'miracle' role in the family.

Most kids would rather just be kids.  Fulfilling someone's expectations of 'miracle' is a tall order indeed.

When I see that word in relation to adoption, I just dismiss the bearer as a self-centered person.

Answer 6

No, I don't consider my adoption a miracle, but I do consider myself very lucky.  I was adopted by wonderful parents who gave me a wonderful childhood.  

My ex husband was adopted by parents who physically, verbally and emotionally abused him and his adopted sister.  I still don't understand why they adopted (twice even!) as they clearly did not have love to give.

Answer 7

When you say miracle I think of Moses parting the Red Sea or some other biblical story.

So, no. Birth parents signed some papers and gave me up. Adoptive parents signed some papers, paid some money, and took me home.

Not really a miracle.

Answer 8

No I don't.  I do however consider myself lucky in the parents that Ihave had in my life.  My step father who also adopted me made me a pillar of strength and fight.  It is in his spirit that I fight as hard as I do.  My adoptive mother also molded me and pointed me into this direction.  She honestly feels that adoptee rights and family preservation is my calling.  She did treat me as her own child.  Even my adoptive sisters believe in what I do.  I have one sister who is very very prolife and very religious.  She stands by my right to have my truth.  

Is it a miracle?  No my adoptive family might feel so.  I feel it is pure luck that I was placed in a family that supports me fully.

Answer 9

Naah. I was adopted by two wonderful people who accepted me as I am, and whom I love very much, but to me that's the way an adoption ought to be, not a miracle.

I don't believe in the supernatural, so I see my adoption as no more or less miraculous than any other means of coming into a family.

And that's OK. If I thought my adoption were a "miracle," I'd feel that I had to live a miraculous life and do great, miraculous things. But I don't. I simply have to live my life as best I can with the tools I was given...just like everyone else.

It probably didn't feel like a miracle to my first mother, bless her heart.  )-:

Answer 10

Absolutely not.

Being abandoned/adopted was gruesome and tragic.

Answer 11

If by 'miracle' you mean 'a violation of the laws of physics,' then clearly not.  Nothing about adoption breaks the laws of physics.

However, if by 'miracle' you mean 'a violation of the laws of nature,' then yes, my adoption was a miracle.  Natural laws would suggest that parents raise their own children.  And since I was adopted, I wasn't raised by my first parents.

However, that, perhaps, is a non-standard use of 'laws of nature.'  

If by 'miracle' you mean 'a wonderful event that I was lucky to have happen to me,' then no.  I'm grateful that my adoptive parents took care of me and loved me.  But I don't consider myself "lucky" nor do I think my adoption itself was a "wonderful event."  

So many different meanings, so little humor...

Answer 12

a miracle?no but he did play a role in it. and that I am thankful for.

you can always extend your family. : )

adptee

Answer 13

Absolutely I do!  My bio parents molested me & my siblings.  The best thing that could have ever happened for any of us was to be adopted.  A miracle?  Absolutely!  God heard my prayers, and He gave me and my sisters the families that we needed to survive.  I may not post often to this board, but this question hit a nerve for me.  Not every adoption story is a miracle, but some are.  I thank God for the parents that I have now and who took a "damaged" child and gave me every opportunity in the world - something I would have never known from my bio parents.  I wonder how many others like me read these answers but are too afraid to speak up.  I just couldn't sit back any more.

Answer 14

no. that word has never come to mind.

Answer 15

I cant honestly say that my adoption was a miracle... more like a blessing so to speak. From the stories I have heard about my birth parents... well my pops wanted to give me up b/c I was like the 4th or 5th child (accident im guessing). Im juss happy and blessed that I now have a family that loves me and excepts me for who I am. On the other hand... I am currently in the process of tryna find my birth mother... Wish me Luck!