Adoptees: When/if you chose to make contact with your natural family, would you want help from...?

Question

your adoptive parents? If so, what kind of help/support. If not, why?

I was hoping that I could help and suport my son with everything and anything regarding his adoption, including contact with his natural family. But, a recent question by an adoptee made me think about it when she stated that she wanted with her natural family- ALONE.

What can an adoptive parent do to help their children when "that time" comes around?

Answer 1

Communication is the only way you'll ever know.  Talk it over with your child before he/she gets to that stage.  Offer your support, and tell him/her that you respect their need for privacy, so it's up to them to let you know what they want.

Answer 2

Hi Kristy,

Maybe you missed it.  Kazi just asked this question recently.  Here's the link:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

I've got an answer on there too.  Hope that helps.

julie j

reunited adoptee

Answer 3

That depends largely on the adoptive parents.  I've been watching on here for a long time, and there are *some* adoptive parents I might just want some help from.  I understand, though, that this is a really, really personal process, and it's the adoptee's process alone.  Still...depending on the adoptive parents, I might want their help.  SOME people, though, are crappy adoptive parents who don't really give a rat's patootie where their kids came from as long as they got the baby they want.  I wouldn't really want help finding my roots if my adoptive parents were like that.

Answer 4

These kids grow up very ungrateful ... You'll spend all  your money & invest time into them for NOTHING.... They'll just go looking for the parent that didnt want them in the 1st place and forget all about you.... I say give em back to their biological parents now... They're going to go running back to them anyway