I realize this is a very sensitive topic and welcome everybody's help. I am researching adoption practices in different countries. I found that in my home country most infant adoptions are closed. Moreover, many people think that it is better for a child not to ever know out that he\she has been adopted, and many adoptive parents go to great lengths to conceal the fact of adoption.
My question is to those adoptees who had negative or not 100% positive adoption experiences because of emotional and other issues related to the awareness of having been abandoned .
Do you think it is emotionally better for an adoptee not to ever find out that he\she was adopted?
Obviously, it is in many cases unrealistic (i.e., in trans-racial or trans-ethnic adoption, plus the truth has a tendency to come out anyway).
Yet, assuming that believable and reliable concealment of the fact of adoption is possible, would you recommend it to adoptive parents? Please explain your answer. Thank you
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