Adoptees...were you a gift from god?

Question

Do you feel that god himself gave you to your a-parents as a gift?

Answer 1

I am an adoptee- and also have 2 adopted children and I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt- that God orchestrated these adoptions- He chose us to be in the families that we are in. God adopted us through His Son dying on the cross and adoption is very important to Him- so yes, I feel that each child is a gift from God- either those who are biological or adopted.

Answer 2

Why so many negative comments?

Becuase people are starting to get the real picture about adoption and foster care.

Their are so mnay negative answers casue the truth is negative.

To answer the question... Bizzi91,  from what I have read from other anwsers and a question he asked, he is right on the money!!

A gift is something you get for free an adopted child is something you pay for.

Answer 3

Wow...soo many people think so badly of themselves.  "Satans spawn"...."baked by the devil"  Are you even Christians?  

I am a gift from God...every baby, child, person is.

Am I a gift from God to my mother - bet your azz!  My father, yep. My grandparents, my brothers?  h**l YEAH!

My bmom?  dunno...probably not at first...lol..unplanned pregnancies are scary to say the least.

The son I gave up - was he a gift from God?  Very Very much so.  To me?  lol..not so much but I was 16 and a baby wasn't really in the cards (It can't happen to MEEEEE) but to the family that adopted him?  Yes, I'm sure he is.

edit: Kudos missmackie!  You're right on the mark

Answer 4

God or god, I think it is a gift from God

Answer 5

I know that you posted this for adoptees, and I apologize for answering as an adoptive parent.

I believe our son is a gift from God in several ways.  I believe that all children are gifts from God regardless of whether or not adoption occurs in their life.

For us, we do feel that God played a part in our adoption story because of the way our son's bio family found us, the situation our son was in at the time, and the way everything worked out to allow us to adopt him and continue to have his bio grandparents in his/our life.  

We tell our son all the time that he is a Gift from God.  We would tell a bio child the same thing.  I understand that our adoption story is different than others and those people may disagree with our comments, but we want our son to learn that he is a gift NOT a mistake as his 1st parents kept calling him.  We hope that it will help him to understand and not feel "unwanted" as he grows up.  

Again, I apologize for answering the question for "adoptees" but seeing that my son is 5 yrs old, I can't let him answer this one for himself.  : )

Answer 6

You asked, I was  adopted many times and given back many times... if you don't want the truth then don't ask the question..

And Heather I am glad you found those links informative....

many others have as well...

What kinda **** is this? A gift from god?

You people are something else...

Why not ask

Adoptees .. do you care that your getting a good set of parents means that someone else didn't? Luck of the draw?

Or are you just happy that you didn't end up like the rest of us?

Do you care that you might have been stolen?

Do you care that your parents probably were forever scarred by losing their child?

Do you care that someone BOUGHT YOU like a piece of meet?

You all can pretend your adoption is great ... but those of us who have a brain that works know this is wrong.

Really this just makes me sick.... it's people like this that think adoption is great... which in returns dooms so many of us to a life you could never imagine. God is a sheepard and you are his sheep. While we who are STOLEN are nuthing more then objects to be sold to "Nice loving families"

What you are doing is wrong. Fix the system until then while it's a broken and corrupt as it is you are it's partner in crime.

I am going to let the others know about this little (Advertising adoption) section on yahoo. The truth will set us free, the lies are getting us killed...

Answer 7

My adopted children think they were a gift from the social worker, forget the stork!!  When other kids were playing doctor delivering a baby, mine were playing court.  They even made business cards with the social workers name on them.  They are quite good at it now!  LOL!

Answer 8

Hahahahahahahha!!!  ROFLMAO!  

If I am, God has a wicked good sense of humor!

Answer 9

I am an adoptive parent.  And having my son in my life is too good to have been set-up by no one other then God, or a God.  In fact, I tell him that the Angels helped God make us Mom and Son.

Answer 10

First of all, I am not that religious.  But to answer the question, I was a gift to my bparents but they re-gifted me.  I think God wanted me to be with the people he chose for me.  I do thank Him that I got such good aparents.

Answer 11

I know my biological parents who I found at the age of 13.  Of my biological and adopted, the only stable person in my life is my adopted father, so I would have to say YES

Answer 12

I am an adopted child - and my answer would be yes.... God definately hand-picked the family I grew up with.. and that's not to say life was always a bed of roses, or that i didn't question why I was born to someone else but not with them... but at the end of the day, God knows me best - he made me, and I beleive it's a gift ...

Answer 13

We have been trying to have a baby for years and any child that we may adopt will most certainly be a gift from God above!

Answer 14

Well, like any other child I was a gift from God to my natural parents.  I think most would say that when a child is born to someone, that child is a gift from God.

But, sadly they couldn't care for me after some bad circumstances occurred when I was a year old.  So, they relinquished me in hopes that I could have better.  Now, that meant that an agency matched me up with an adoptive family.  I had been in foster care for a time, so going to a permanent family was a good thing.

Did God intend for me to be raised by people other than those upon whom He bestowed me?  No, I don't believe so.  But, because all humans are imperfect and this world is made up of all of these imperfect humans, there are situations that sometimes make it such that people don't end up raising their own children.  Thus, adoption exists.  In a perfect world, everyone would be able to raise his/her own children because they would be capable of doing so (not abusive, etc.,) and they would be encouraged to do so, as well.   But, we don't live in a perfect world.

So, no, I'm not a gift from God to my aparents. God certainly didn't choose to orchestrate this entire scenario of relinquishment and loss only to bestow upon my aparents a child they wanted.  But that doesn't mean that they loved me any less than my younger brother who is their biological child.

eta:

Some time ago, I did a write up on this very subject.  It can be found at http://oneluckybastard.blogspot.com/2007...

Answer 15

I'm not an adoptee, but an adoptee's sibling.  I very much believe God placed my brothers with us, but I don't know I believe they were a "gift".  They got many good things from being a part of our family, but I also was made a stronger and better person having them as brothers.  

However, my brothers were seriously injurred by their mother before birth.  I do NOT think that was what God intended.  I think God made the best of a bad situation, and I was lucky to be part of the solution.

Answer 16

Nah.  I came from the file drawer at the adoption agency didn't I

I was a gift to my natural mother.  Unfortunately society didn't like the fact that she was not married.

eta:  Bizzi91 - thanks for the links, they were enlightening.

Answer 17

Nah, I was a sweet little cupcake.  Baked by the devil.

Answer 18

I think all babies are a gift from God.  Some moms have to or chose to bestow the gift upon another family.  Why are there so many negative answers to this?  I have twin friends (now a grown man and woman) and they both talk about how grateful they are for their (adoptive) parents.  Their birth parents were drug addicts.

Answer 19

Answer #1  

According to the Catholic church all children have the right to be the "fruit" of their parents "procreative love."  So, by their definition, I was a gift to my bparents.  Although I am surprised to find myself agreeing with the church, I tend to believe I was a gift to bparents.  Too bad they decided they decided they just didn't want it.  You can't overlook in this sort of discussion that God gave us free will...to accept or reject gifts.  But, a "gift from God" to my aparents.  No, I don't think so at all.  I think it was lucky happenstance that brought me to their door.  

Answer #2

In Modern German, Swedish, and Danish GIFT and in Dutch GIF are used euphemistically for POISON.....so, yes definitely.  lol

Answer 20

Certainly not.  My first mother relinquished me to the state, which gave me to my a'parents.  

I know some people call all kids gifts from god, but I wince whenever I hear the idea that a supposedly all-loving, all-powerful entity decided to engineer things this way, with pain and loss and grief for all parties involved, rather than just allowing my a'parents to be fertile in the first place.  It strikes me as being kinda sick.

Answer 21

i cant say my adoptive parents would agree with that. maybe a twisted joke from God. LOL!! i was a very bad child.

Answer 22

All children are a gift from God.

BTW, God's only son, Jesus, was adopted by Joseph--his earthly father.  His mother, Mary, became pregnant by the Holy Spiriit while she and Joseph were engaged to be married before they "became one".  

God approves of adoption--He created it.