Adopting Baby From Affluent Parents.?

Question

I was curious let's say an affluent couple have a baby and they want to give it up for adoption and of course they want the best for their child-- and a single lady with a job wants to adopt the child, BUT, she also wants the biological father to pay child support even though it is not her own. Is this possible and have you ever heard of something like this before.

I am 42 and am looking to adopt. I can't afford the high fees to get a child, but I can afford to raise one if the father helps financially. YOur thoughts.

Answer 1

I think you are getting a little bit crazy here.

I suggest you find another outlet for your desire to nurture.

Good luck

Answer 2

One word! Outrageous!!

your question really takes the cake..

really now, think about it... if the parents are rich , why would they give up their child for adoption in the first place??

And why do you think that "if " you were lucky enough to adopt this child. that you feel you would be entitled to

financial  support from the father??

Obviously. if you are at 42 unable to adopt and raise a child on your own.. why do you think someone will drop a child in your lap and support them for you also??

and depending on how old the child is when adopted they would have to support that child until university age( 20 years ) at which time. should n't your old age security click in??

Answer 3

Sounds like heaven to me!

Taken from your natural parents who are wealthy to be given to an older woman who's broke.  So this kid will be in daycare for, what, 10 hours a day? To come home to an apartment with my burnt -out, single, not related to mother?

You missed the  parenthood boat.  Let it go.

Answer 4

i dont' think you shoudl try this. does not sound good if you can't take care of the baby yourself i doubt you will be able to adopt one cause they wont' let you do this.

Answer 5

This is hilarious!  I can just see your "Dear Birthmother" letter...

Dear Rich People,

I was wondering if you might have an extra baby I could borrow for awhile.  See I am single and poor and I need someone to cuddle.  Can you please give me your kid?  And do you mind paying for everything even though the baby will be for me and me alone?  As I said before, I'm poor and diapers are expensive  and don't even get me started on college edumacations.  You understand right?  Think of me as your new favorite charity.

All My Best.

Answer 6

im not being funny but why should the father pay for the child if that child has been adopted,once the child has been adopted they are no longer part of that mans life,you should only adopt a child if you can afford to,theres no point bringing up a child if you carnt afford it.

i was lucky i was adopted by parents that could afford it.

Answer 7

so let me get this straight...you want a wealthy couple to give their baby to you, an older, single, working mom who can't afford to adopt traditionally, and you want them to pay you child support to do so?

I can't say I've ever heard of this happening before.

Answer 8

Adoptions (other than a stepparent adoption) can only be done when both parents relinquish their rights (voluntarily or if unnamed or unfound then through other legal means).  In doing that they are also relieving themselves of all financial responsibility.  If you cannot afford to raise a child being single then you should not do it.

Answer 9

Sorry, but you are not thinking clearly here. This is not the way adoption works.

Answer 10

selfish looking for a sugar daddy and getting to old so maybe this adopting thing is where the money is....sigh....how do you sleep at night

Answer 11

Once the child is adopted the bio-father is no longer responsible for child-support as he has terminated his rights and responsibilities.

Answer 12

Wow - MarshaR summed up your post beautifully.

I think it's a good idea to find other venues for your desire to nurture than infant adoption.

Answer 13

Get a job as a nanny.

Answer 14

No, when you adopt a child the parents no longer have any obligations to you at all.

Perhaps you should try adopting a special needs child (one who has been through foster care)...the state often pays a subsidy...but usually not for healthy babies....the fees are minimal if not free.

Answer 15

Um...no.  This would not happen.  Once you adopt a child, the biological parents have no financial responsibility whatsoever.  There's no way that any sort of support agreement would be legally enforceable, even if you tried to negotiate one.

If you're sincere about wanting to be part of a child's life, I suggest looking into foster parenting.  (The agency in my area has a "foster-to-adopt" program, I suspect that other areas have similar programs.)

Answer 16

No, I have never heard of anything like this before.  I don't want to dash your hopes, but I think it is very doubtful that an affluent family would choose you to adopt their child.  An affluent family would be looking for a family that could provide as much or more than they can.

Imagine how the poor child would feel, growing up pinching pennies and cutting out coupons to later find out that his/her family of origin was well-off and perfectly capable of providing for him/her?  Talk about feelings of rejection!

I mean jeezz - don't people who ask these questions ever think about the child?

Editted to Add:  Sunny makes a good point. Apartment and 10 hours in day care or a house with a pool and a pony?

Answer 17

I don't think this is a likely scenario - bio parents have no financial commitment to the child once adopted.

You could consider looking into fostering - foster carers are paid generously to offer temporary and sometimes long term homes to children.  But if you are in this for financial gain then reorganise your priorities before you begin this process - the childs well being has to always be first, no matter what!  If you cannot afford to offer a home  to a child, you should not be considering it at this point.