Adopting Siblings?

Question

I'm 17 and have always loved the idea of adoption. (No I'm not considering having children anytime soon, seeing as I'm still in school and too young.)

Recently a story aired in my local paper about three siblings who were looking for a home together but were having problems finding one.

I know there is nothing I can do about them right now, at my age, but what about in the future?

Do you think it's a good idea to adopt siblings?

Answer 1

I would adopt sibling together if I were adopting. It's not fair to keep them apart. If for some reason they did get adopted by different families then i think it is the families responsibility to make sure they get together and spend a lot of  time together as a family

Answer 2

of course it is.  adoption isnt all happiness and warm hugs but who wouldnt want to keep a family together... thats pretty much all you have left if your parents are gone.

Answer 3

We adopted siblings....

We had many reasons why we decided to add more then one child to our home at the same time...

First of all we were expereinced parents and knew what more then one child at a time would be like--so the typical sibling issues were nothing new or surprising for us.

We were able...we waited to a time in our lives where we were not as worried about finaces but rather able to provide for children. Two or more at the same time is expensive and if the children have any special needs there may be things that need to be provided.

Our number one reason for adopting siblings was our feeling that our children would always have each other as family...that they would have a chance to grow up together and be each others...

It isn't easy to adopt siblings--one of the children is nearly always old enough to remember and retell the story to the younger children... On some points this is healthy and great but on other points it is hard on the little ones....

Answer 4

We adopted a pair of siblings from Liberia. I don't think siblings should be separated, but sadlly, that isn't always possible.  I think it's been healthy for them, but since they often squabble like.. well... siblings, it's much more noisy for us!

Answer 5

Obviously keeping siblings together would be preferable to separating them

Answer 6

I totally support keeping siblings together. The best hting you could probably do for fostered siblings is adopt all of them, or none of them.

Answer 7

Yes I do very much. There are many many siblings groups that need to be adopted. They are considered special needs; obviously it takes a special person or couple, to adopt several kids at the same time. A siblings group can be as few as 2 to as many as 8 or more. Their ages can also vary from  babies/toddlers/children/teens. Often if one takes a large group, there will be a variety of ages from baby or toddler all the way up to teenagers.

If I ever adopt from Brazil I would adopt a sibling group preferable a group of 2 or 4. If I adopt from Foster Care I would also consider siblings groups.

Answer 8

I think its good to try and keep siblings together. Unfortunatly, I never got to be with my sibling as my bio kept him for a little while after my adoption. It was just too late.

Answer 9

I think it is a good thing to adopt siblings for several reasons.

First, it is a good thing because it is historically harder for sibling groups to get adopted.  Most adoptive parents prefer singleton infants.  I liken this to adopting a minority or special needs children, and people willing to adopt from these 'less desirable' groups should be lauded.

Second, personally, I think adopting two or more is better for them as well in the long term.   I believe having siblings is a better way to grow up, it makes you better adjusted and gives you built in playmate(s).  In terms of specific adoption issues, many of the adopted people on this site report feeling some 'disconnection' from their adoptive family.  If you have a brother or sister who was also adopted by the same family you will perhaps feel more part of a family as you grow up.

Answer 10

I think its a great idea to adopt siblings.

My fiance and I are currently in the process of adopting two children... one of which is biologically his.

Long story short... the children, at the time, aged 10 and 7, lost their mother to diabetes (and drug addiction).  She was 30 years old.  In November, 2006 the children were apprehended by children's aid because of drug addiction.  July 2007 their Mother passed away, in the end, it was due to diabetes complications.  A very sad situation for such young children to be in.  We have been in court since November 2006.  Just 10 days before the kids mother passed away we got 'care and custody' of the 10 year old.  We are now in the process of adopting his seven year old sister.  There were many people who thought, because of the kids disturbed upbringing, the kids should not be together, due to the fact the 10 year old was parentified.  I say, what gives ANYONE the right to separate two siblings, especially after the traumas they have endured?  Both children have stated on MANY occasions, that they want to be together.  On weekend overnight visits, especially as of late, the seven year old leaves our home crying, not wanting to go back to foster care.  She feels AT HOME and has stated it many times over the last 3 months.  Come March 7, she will be moving in, as CAS says, on 'extended visits' until April 8 when we officially submit our plan of care for her.  The seven year olds father has been out of her life (and living a criminal lifestyle in British Columbia) since she was 2 months old.  Through this entire process he has been noted in default, even after claiming 'you will see my lawyers in court' and 'once this trial is over you will never see my daughter again'  (hes on some serious drugs if he actually thinks HE will ever see his daughter again).  After our plan of care is filed, since there is no longer a need for protection, CAS will finally be out of our lives... for good, and these two children will have a proper home, where they don't have any worries, other than what they want to do that day!!

Neither children are mine, and friends and strangers have said to me that not a lot of women would actually do this, or stick around... I have known these amazing children for nearly 7 years... I would be a heartless bi$%h if I ran...

So, in closing, yes, I believe adopting siblings is a great idea.  You will never regret making that decision in life.  Keeping families together is #1 in my books!!

Answer 11

I have always felt that when looking to adopt and there are siblings involved if they are close they should always go to the same home.  It is wrong to divide up a family, they have it bad enough being in a new home without having to lose each other too.  I think it is great when people find it in their hearts to adopt an older child and even more so when they take in one or more siblings too.  It is an "instant family" :-).  When I was looking to adopt before having the boys I was considering either a single or up to a group of 3 depending on age range.  If you feel you can offer a loving home and financially take care of more than one child I see nothing wrong with adopting sibling groups.  They have each other which helps them adjust better I think than if you get them splitup but most of the time people only want 1 and it is usually the youngest one.

Answer 12

Yes, yes, yes...they have each other - the only consistantly that they will have in their lives. Of course there are rare instances that siblings should be kept apart (abusive relationships with each other) but most children need homes with bio sibs! DO IT! I did an am very blessed. www.adoptive-parenting.com/adopting-twin...

Answer 13

Yes, if you have the means to adopt a sibling group and the heart/patience...then yes. It's always a great idea to keep the family members together. What better joy than for them to remain a family! : )