Adopting a kid?

Question

i will be moving to Los Angeles next year and would like to adopt a kid but for that dont i need to be married? Can anyone explain the system for adoption please

Answer 1

Yes, it's very difficult for a single man or single woman to adopt a child. Why? Several reasons, are you simply going to adopt a child so that you can put them in daycare? You must also know that there are billions of child preditors out there, and that why would a single man want a child that is not his own to raise? These questions are what case workers ask themselves all the time even when couples want to adopt!

Answer 2

You need to adjust your attitude first.  If you call a child a kid during your homestudy interview, it could reflect poorly.

Answer 3

kindly visit google sites on adoption

Answer 4

there are adoption agencies and lawyers that will work with single people.  You do not have to be married to adopt a child if you find the right agency.

Answer 5

No problem u can adopt kid without marriege

Answer 6

"A kid is a billy goat."

Well, here are the basics for a homestudy, which pretty much tell you what us required for most adoptions.  But, yes, singles can adopt.  As long as they know not many birthmothers are open to selecting a single parent for their child, and most select a single mother.  But if you are as open as she needs to be to select a single parent, your chances of adopting will go well.

With over 20 years in adoption work, and having approved over 400 families to adopt, I can tell you what we looked for. Many of these requirements are set in stone in our state, as they are with every state. And then the agency approving you will also have their own requirements -- some may have "Christian only" or "No smoking" reqirments, for example. But the basic requirements are as follows:

JOB AND JOB HISTORY - stable employment history

SALARY - decent stable salary reflected on your tax returns, pay stubs and employment letters

TAXES - good history of completing verifiable tax returns

MARRIAGES - usually look at number (less than three is preferable!) and length of current marriage (usually 3+ years)

DIVORCES - will need copies of the decrees, and names of exes, as well as explanation of reason for divorce

CHILDREN - children will be interviewed, even if live with you part time or if they are grown

REFERENCES - must have personal and professional (therapist, rabbi, teacher) references who have known you both for 5+ years ideally

MEDICAL - letters from doc stating no communicable or catastrophic ilnesses/diseases, and state that you are mentally/emotionally and physically stable

MENTAL - stability

ABUSE HISTORY - from childhood on up, history and how you have resolved or coped with it

ARRESTS - if you have one, why and when, with details, and resolution, verified by criminal and child abuse background checks in all states where you have lived

INCOME - must be sufficient to more than just pay all bills and expenses, and not be in debt or bankruptcy

PETS - must be child friendly and up on all vaccinations and healthy

HOME - must have a "home" -- not just a house -- can be an apartment or house, but needs to be organized, warm and child friendly and safe

CARS - do not have to be new, but need to be safe and dependable with approved car seats

FRIENDS/NEIGHBORS - appropriate, not partiers and moochers

FAMILY - need to be enthusiastic about the adoption for the sake of the child!

COUNSELING - history of marriage counseling and resolution, as well as mental health counseling and therapist's names and reports

ALCOHOL AND DRUGS - no drug use and alcohol in strict moderation, and if have history of addictions, must have proof of resolution

LIFESTYLE - generally fit and appropriate for children, such as not a "clubber" or partier, no risky habits

HOBBIES - what you do with your spare time

RELIGION/SPIRITUALITY - do not have to attend church unless the specific agency reqires it, and some birthmothers want only a certian religion or practice or the absence of it

MOTIVATION TO ADOPT - why and history of desire to adopt

HISTORY WITH CHILDREN - caring for nieces/nephews or friend's children, or volunteer work documnted

CHILDHOOD - everything from your birth on up, such as family activites, discipline, parental roles, discipline, etc.

FAMILY OF ORIGIN - how close are you now and how often do you stay in contact, etc.

MARRIAGE - stability and strengths and weaknesses, duration, usually at least 3 years

EXES - why ex relationships ended

ATTITUDES TOWARD BIRTHPARENTS - caring, open, appreciative or want nothing to do with her (indication of attitude towards child as well)

ATTITUDES TOWARDS PEOPLE OF DIFFERENT SOCIO-ECONOMIC STATUS - general attitudes reflect how you may see child, or birth parents

ATTITUDES ABOUT CONTINUING CONTACT WITH BIRTHMOTHER - open, semi open or closed -- most agencies will not work with families who want a closed adoption as this is not in the best interest of the child

EXPECTATIONS OF CHILD - are the expectations realistic or not, such as must be bright and look like us (argh)

HEALTH INSURANCE - must have adequate medical insurance for the child, as well as for selves

ETC.!! Good luck to you!!

Answer 7

I TOTALLY agree with litecandles, she has an excellent point!

Pick her as the best answer!

Answer 8

First off, get it straight, it will help in  the long run on how you view the child.

A kid is a baby goat. A child is a human being. if you already disrespect the child by calling him/her an animal, then the child is better off not being adopted by you.

You may not think it is a big deal. But no one likes to be called names and especially slang names. And it would be a matter of time, before  the child was not doing right and the brat word would come out.

Answer 9

I know that domestic adoptions in the U.S. are so competitive that you might be over looked quite a bit if you are wanting an infant.  I believe that in order to adopt from China you now have to be married ( don't hold me to that).  My sister and her husband adopted from there and I think I remember her saying they had changed laws about that.  

Now, if you are interested in an older child, I would think you would have better luck--there are TONS of children in the foster care system wanting someone to love them.  I would contact the local Division of Family Services office where you live...or are going to live.  Many of those children are adoptable--although I believe foster care laws vary by state.