Adopting after surrogacy from one state to another?

Question

My husband and I are going to conceive a child through surrogacy (hubby's sperm, her egg), she lives in a different state. I will be adopting the child after it is born (I guess step-parent adoption), what adoption laws do we go by? Her state? or ours?

Answer 1

there are so many insensitive people in this world...don't mind them.what you are doing is perfectly ok...sometimes the people who love children the most cannot have them without help.

I would speak to a lawyer before the procedure...yahoo answers not be the place to get the answers you are looking for...

all the best ..hope all your dreams come true

Answer 2

This is a hard questions, and as a generic answer I would say talk to your lawyer.  I can see the reasoning for both choices.

I have to say that I think it is wonderful that you found a way to bring your child into this world.  I know it must be tough to realize that another woman is carrying your baby, but the gift she will give you is the greatest in the world.

Answer 3

Where in the world did you find this girl?

In another state?  Kind of out there, most surrogacy mothers are at least in the same state, or someone that you know....this surrogacy mother sounds like a scam....

Answer 4

We  have the same situation, but our baby is already here, but I am not an atty., so I can only answer how it applied to us.  The state law applied to our case was our state because that is where the baby resides.  The important thing for us was to ensure we had an atty. prior to the birth, so we had all the paperwork release forms ready to legally take the baby out of their birth state.  Then, once here, the atty. had the birth cert. changed to reflect the correct father, and then the step parent adoption was completed. People should just answer your question or ignore it,  but leave their opinions out. :)

Answer 5

ummmm...aren't you supposed to have that all figured out before you rent her womb?

ETA- ok, so this woman is carrying your baby for no fee, then?

ETA2- oh, so she's offering her womb at no charge, and paying all the fees for you, and you find this to be normal?

what type of therapy do you plan for this child who will forever feel the sense of loss for the mother that carried him/her?