Adopting my nephew and have a question?

Question

We have a 9 year old little girl and we are also in the process of adopting my 15 year old nephew. I am wondering if anyone has any advice on what effect this will have on her. She seems excited but I think that will fade quickly when she realizes she is not the only child anymore. Any advice?

Answer 1

be careful, he is older than her...could be good, could be bad. good luck, there is always enough love.

Answer 2

I think she is going to go through a big faze because there is stages between a teenager growing up into an adult

Answer 3

she is excited because she has a big brother now .i hope he is a good kid .

Answer 4

Well, my hsband and I went through this w/ our niece.  My husbands sister just decided to jump state one day, and we ended up getting custody of her oldest daughter who was 13 at the time, mind you she left her w/ an ex husband who was not even her father.  Well our situation was a little different from yours.  We had 2 boys at that time age 2 and newborn.  It was tough, she had a lot of problems emotionally she was just ready to snap and would at any given time.  It took a toll on our family...  Even on our marriage.  I couldn't deal with it.  the first few months were golden w/ her and then she did a complete turn around in her attitude and became very disrespectful and dishonest.  Unfortunately we flew her to the state her mother lives in and she is now back w/ her she is almost 17 now, and happier.  She is back w/ mom and I think thats all she needed.  The most you can do is try.  Every kid deserves a chance.  And more power to you to give him that chance.  You never know how your family will take it...  I think your daughter will be fine, there is an age/s*x difference, so he would just be like the older brother to her.  plus he is old enough to where he won't require attention as much as your daughter does now.  Best of luck to you and your family, you are doing a wonderful thing.

Answer 5

none 15 year old need no extra time and won't be taking any time away from her and her parents..

Answer 6

It depends on what she's like and what her relationship is like with her cousin.  If she's sharing and caring, then I think she'll be okay with it.  I know many only-childs, and they'd love to have an older brother or sis.  I know I would too if I was a loner and I was cool with my older cousin.  She'll probably enjoy having someone to protect her.

Answer 7

I think she will be excited that she will be titled a sister but if she realizes that she is not the oldest anymore, she may get upset. If she develops these problems, just calmly talk to her about it. Explain why you took in your nephew. Why are you adopting your nephew?

Answer 8

she is used to having all the attention, but just as long as she gets attention still and don't feel ignored she should be fine, she's still young but old enough to understand the other child needs attention too.

Answer 9

If you have taught her to have an open heart & mind, compassion, and empathy, she should be just fine with it and will offer him some of the love he has obviously missed out on.

Answer 10

its family so you guys may be OK. Make sure you take advantage of any counseling that may be offered to you and your family. In case any  difficulties may arise.