Adopting? what are your experiences?

Question

well my fiancee and i have got to talking for a while now about adopting. we have 4 beautiful baby girls and are pregnant with our 5 baby. we want to adopt. we both always wanted a big family. we will have 5 of our own plus our children that we adopt. growing up i always knew that i wanted to both have my own babies and then adopt. my fiancee feels the same way. i know this is not something to take lightly. requires alot of thought and full lifetime of devotion. we want to adopt an older child or even maybe foster. my question is what are your experiences with adopting and or fostering? did it work for you and the child/children?

Answer 1

Your fiancee?  You have 4 beautiful girls & expecting another child.   They are not dolls.  I am missing something here?  Adopting can be  a wonderful thing.  For the child & the parents.  You are saying this is not to be taking lightly?  M experience is not as great as yours.  For obvious reasons;  first I had a committed husband, second it was our choice to apply to adopt a child (got a surprise brother 10 months later).  We were committed as a family.  I surely hope you have the finances to raise 6 or more children in this world we live in to be able to provide food, shelter, education & love.    I love children, infants, toddler, growing up, early & late teens, finding satisfactory employment and assisting the 'children' when they ask and need assistance.  My sons - biological and adopted have their own children now.  But I am their mother & now grandmother.  My sons know who their parents are.  They are brothers after all.

Answer 2

In case you're not having us all on....try marriage first.  It isn't something to take lightly.  Requires a lot of thought and full lifetime devotion...even if you already have a litter and the unmitigated gall to want someone else's kid on top of that.

Really--you're joking, right?

Answer 3

I had 3 bio children and adopted. However, we did not do it thru foster care (we lived in a VERY rural county and no foster children had been relinquished for adoption for 2 years). My children love their sister and she loves them. They have the normal sibling fights and tussles and no one treats her "as adopted" (except for we do acknowledge that she has a different heritage and birth family and make extra efforts in this area).

Answer 4

My wife and I adopted a girl and boy many years ago. My bother-in-law and his wife adopted two boys and two girls over a time of 6 years. It matters not to me that they are adopted, I love all of these children, can't really say children anymore, they are in college or married.There is no greater feeling than to be told they knew they were special children, the Lord knew they would be taken care of by special people. The rewards over the years out number any problems that might be encountered.

Take the spare time you might have, go to the library and find books on adoptions and adopting foster children. There is alot of information that can be found on the subjects that will help you avoid problems down the road and in the future.