Adoption, Bring Kids or Not?

Question

My fiance is adopting my 20 month old and my 2 month old. I was wondering if they need to be there when we have our day in court. We are not fighting for custody or anything my ex is letting him do it, but we're having a big thing of adopting them at the court house and then we'll have a party after. Should we bring the kids (I know they can keep quiet if we give them their pacifiers) or leave them at home with a baby-sitter and just bring them to the party.

Answer 1

It is probably a personnel decision but I wouldn’t see why they would have to be there. Though you might want to celebrate right away, have a family moment just the 4 of you, before your party.  Congrats by the way I’m glad it worked out the way you wanted it too.

Answer 2

I was required to bring my son to the Placement heiring where thr b-parents had to sing the surrender papers but not to the finialization.  We took him anyway.

Answer 3

It would probably just be boring for them. I would get a sitter and let them come to the party after wards =)

Answer 4

I would leave the kids at home for the courthouse part because often you'll only be one in a long line of "cases" and the wait might be tremendous!  

Then, just for fun, I would make up some little ceremony at home.  Are either of your parents going to be there, or sisters or brothers?  You might have them "preside" sort of like a priest of a preacher at a wedding, and have your husband say some vows and kiss the kids..  something like that.

Answer 5

Check with the court...

When we finalized with our son, who was 11 months old at the time, he was required to appear, so the magistrate could satisfy himself as to his health and well being.

We adopted in Ohio,  your mileage may vary.

Answer 6

I believe it is a personal decision, but we had a picture taken at the finalization proceeding of us with our son and the judge.  The picture hangs on our wall because it was the day we became family.  I cherish that picture and am so glad we have it.  

Just a thought for you.

Answer 7

In most states if not all it is required that the child(ren) be in the court room with you. You should check with the court that you will be attending to see what they say.

Answer 8

I would bring them, a lot of judges will take a photo with you--great picture, one that will definitely be of a good memory!

Answer 9

Good question...I think its a personal decision. I might bring them as it is such a celebration.  Congrats and good luck.