Adoption, would like to find family?

Question

i am a grown adult with grown children and have suffered all my life after my adopted parents died all of my relatives disowned me because i was not."blood" I went through my life thinking i had all the love from my extended family...but was wrong. I have somewhat gotten over it but would really like to find my family. where should i start looking?

Answer 1

go through the records your parents may of had regarding your adoption ... and maybe try the hospital you were born in ...

i'm sorry to hear your extended family disowned you because you weren't of their blood ... that is extemely disheartening of them.  

but please be prepared for the same from your birth family, they don't know you and your mom may not want to reopen old wounds .... please don't get the fantasy in your head that everyone will welcome you with open arms, please keep realistic with all of it.

I do wish you luck!!  and again I'm sorry about your family.

Answer 2

It depends on the state in which you were born.  In Illinois we have an adoption registry where you can petition for a searcher and also a registry to put your name on.  You can contact the agency who did the adoption and request a copy of your non-identifying information.  This can come in one of two forms.  Either you will get whited out copies of your records or a letter giving you information.  They can not disclose any identifying information.  You can also check with that agency to see if they do biological searches.   Also, Look for an adoption support group in your area.  They are a good resource for helping you to get started.

Answer 3

Look through the phone books for your family names.Look at your birth certificate to see what your parents name

Answer 4

That's terriable, wish you all the luck finding them

Answer 5

You can start with adoptee support groups in your area. They meet quite often, and you may find that their support alone, will be "family like" to you.  If you are a grown adult, why not "flip this", think outside of the box.  Visit your local nursing homes on a regular basis, get to know the residents. You may find that this is one of the most gratifying things you could do in your life, not only for you, but for them as well.  I wish you peace, know that you are not alone.  Contact an agency in your area as well, they may have some recommendations for you. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Have you gotten your non-identifying info yet?  What state were you born in (it really does make all the difference)?

If I can help you with this in any way, I would be glad to.

Answer 7

IF you have any names you can just start with the phoen book-www.whitepages.com-Ive foudn lost friends that way. If its not too common of a name you may get lucky. Try Googling any name you ahve as well-Ive foudn some interesting info about people I THOUGHT I knew that way.