Adoption. Can anyone who had adopted an american white infant tell?

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me their experience and cost and length of time and if there was any problems. Husband and I are thinking of adoption like I mentioned above. Just seeing how it is and how it works. I have done lots of research allready and just wanting some real life experiences. Thanks ahead of time. :)

Answer 1

I believe children & family services will pay for their college.At least in Illinois.

We adopted a boy when he was 11.I would never do that again.EVER!We went through pure h**l,for 6yrs.He had been in & out of foster homes.He had hardly any rules.Then he came to our house & had rules.Plus he thought if he'd do enough bad thing's we'd send him away like others did.We also thought love would take care of everything.WRONG!!The police got to know us,as well as his school administrators.Good luck whatever you decide.

Answer 2

My husband and I have adopted four white American children through our state's Children's Division (Department of Family Services).  We had to become foster parents first to do so.  That process took about 4 months (training).  When these four children were placed with us, it took about a year or a little more to go through the court processes of terminating the parents' rights (criminal cases and family services cases).  Then it took another 6 months to file for the adoption and get through the court proceedings.  I will say that being a foster parent is heart breaking work because the kids have usually been through so much, and you never know what is going to happen with the bio parents in court, but the end result sure is worth it.  Our kids were 4 months, 2, 3, and 5 when we got them.  The older three had been physically and sexually abused.  We got them into a great counselor right away and you would never know today that anything bad had ever happened to them.  They are wonderful children.  I have no experience with private adoption because we could not afford it.  Actually, in our state, if you go through family services, the state actually pays each child a monthly income for expenses (even after adoption) until they are eighteen.  They also qualify for Medicaid, and our daycare is paid for by the state.  So, financially speaking - we are managing better this way than if we had adopted privately and paid out thousands of dollars.  Let me know if you have any questions.  I'd be happy to answer.

Answer 3

My husband and I adopted twins and it was an amazing experience!  We went with a local agency, but they are linked up nationally with other agencies.  We had our home study in August and found out we were chosen by a birth mother having twins in February.  [We actually were chosen by a birth mother a couple days after our home study was complete, but that didn't work out (we passed due to financial issues attached to that adoption)].  The babies were born in August and we were present for the birth and were the first ones to hold them.  It was wonderful and I love my babies so much.

Most private adoptions cost between $22000 and $30,000.  Your first step is to pick an agency - then you fill out the application (and there are very specific questions about what you want) - schedule your home study - do your family profile (a collection of pictures and story of your current family that the birth mother looks at to choose an adoptive couple for her baby) and then let the adoption agency find your baby.  They say the wait will be between a year and 2 years, but all the adoptive moms I have talked to tell me it was quicker than they thought.  It is imperative that you do your research and go with an agency that has a good reputation and has been around a while.  Good luck and start going on line and calling agencies to get their pamphlets/CD's so you and your husband can choose one and start your journey!

Answer 4

my daughter is caucasion/hispanic, but the wait and cost is usually the same even if she were all caucasion.  the lenght of wait, complications, and cost are all dependant upon the amount of time you spend educating yourself about adoption and which agency or attorney or other means you go through.  birthmother expenses are individual and vary from state laws, and birthmother's.  doesn't matter the race of the child.  research, research and research some more.  find a reputable agency that you feel comfortable with.  find an attorney that knows the laws of your state and the state you will be adopting from.  personally we waited 24 hours to be matched, 1 month for the birth of our daughter and 6 weeks after she was born to finalize.  but the adoption rules of our state, allowed for parental rights to be terminated 12 hours after birth, and can not be reversed after that unless extinuating circumstances were present.  educate yourself, don't depend on someone else to tell you laws, regulations and what to expect.  the agency that we went through has a usual wait time of 6-10 months for a caucasion baby.  and their fees will roll over into the next possible situation should the birthmother decide to parent the child.  they do not to the books that they show the birthmothers, or have waiting lists where you have to wait your way to the top.  they match prospective adoptive parents with birthmothers based on years of knowledge working in the adoption field.  and they have over an 85% success rate.  which was higher than any pregnancy or chance of a pregnancy i ever had.  educate yourself, and then go with your instincts.  and best of luck to you, it's a long difficult road, but the reward at the end is priceless.

ejacks~how sad for that child.  not once in your answer did you show any compassion for that child and what he went through.  never once did you mention the training and other special things you did to try and help that child.  just the tremendous inconvienance he caused you. any educated adult will tell you love does not conquer all, but mixed with compassion and education and persistance helps.   you're right, hopefully you will never do that again!