Adoption Concerns 2 questons?

Question

what are some of your concerns about before and after adoptions? and do you any surpport fourms for people who want to adopt or who have adopted?

Answer 1

Some reading suggestions:

* "Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self" by Brodzinsky, Schecter, and Henig

* "Journey of the Adopted Self" by Betty Jean Lifton

* "The Primal Wound" by Nancy Verrier

Answer 2

1. That I am adopting a child that came from a loving home but was just poor.

2. I'm adopting a child that was illegally put in the system or the parents were duped into giving their child up by an unethical/criminal facilitator.

3. That I really adopted an orphan and not took a child away from another woman.

http://travel.state.gov/family/adoption/...

Answer 3

In addition to the books Phil recommended, here are some of my suggestions:

Gather as much information as you can about the child you are adopting so that you can one day provide him or her with identifying information.  A copy of their original birth certificate. Names, dates, heritage, medical information, etc. **Remember, however, that medical info is only UP TO the time of the adoption.

Understand that your child has another set of parents in the world. That doesn't mean they love you less. And if they want to meet those other parents one day, IT DOESN'T MEAN THEY LOVE YOU ANY LESS!  You can't/won't be "replaced".

There are approximately 120,000 kids in foster care available for adoption in the US (that means parental rights have already been terminated). Consider being parents to one of these children.

Don't adopt a child "to give a child in need of a home, a home" (solely or primarily) - but because you want to be parents!  And because you know you both will GAIN so much by having this child in your life - rather than 'rescuing' a child (which can make for an expectation of gratitude from the child) - instead have an attitude of gratitude TO your child for making YOU a FAMILY.  

Wouldn't it be great if every child born was born to parents who were ready, willing & able to parent? Who were wanted, loved, cherished and protected?  Who's parents survived to raise them? Wouldn't it be great if adoption was never necessary?  

Sadly, adoption is sometimes the best option or the only option for a child to have a home & family.  Because of this, of course I support adoption and people who want to make a family with a child who needs a family.

Good luck...