Adoption! Do you think its a Selfish of Selfless Choice?

Question

I know that some parents cant take of their babies, but i've been one to always think "When theres a Will theres a Way".

I'm not judging anyone, i just want to know what you think!

Answer 1

If you cant take care for a  child, find a way to do it

OR GIVE IT UP

first thing is first if you are young and just want to *** everyone you meet get birth controll permint kind

YES ADOPTION IS THE MOST WONDERFUL THING THAT YOU CAN DO IN YOUR LIFE,

AND IF IT DONT WORK OUT WITH ONE GET ANOTHER KICK THE OLD ONE TO THE CURB

Answer 2

When we are taking a good hard look at the child's situation, the mother's situation, and asking ourselves if adoption is really, truly necessary, and if all other options have been offered or exhausted to keep the original family together (including the father!), then yes, it is selfless.

Answer 3

i think that it better 2 give a child up 4 adoption that 2 kill tha baby. But people who can take care of tha child souldnt give tham up they have 2 step up n that care of there bussines n deal with it

Answer 4

Sure, 'if there's a will there's a way' is a lovely sentiment.  But the truth is that much of society, and nearly all agencies are preaching a very different message."Give your child a better life, give him to us" is their usual refrain.

Adoption is for children of  abuse, neglect, and/or addiction.

Answer 5

selfless..alot of people adopt for the love of children...i would rather see someone give a child up to a family....than kill them etc...the child needs to come first in any one of these situations...it can not be easy to give a child up...i buried one of my children and that was one of the hardest things i have ever done...i can't imagine giving one up .....but i have to admire someone who feels the child deserves better

Answer 6

Selfless.....to admit that u cant do something isnt always a sign of weakness ....sometimes its reality......it takes a lot of courage for a women(or child) to put their babies up for adoption and their are many reasons not just "I cant take care of a baby right now" reason.

Answer 7

Sometimes it is really better for the child to be in a better enviroment if the parents cant take care of them.

Answer 8

I like to think of it as an act of kindness!!

Answer 9

For me, it was selfish. I adopted my son from foster care when he was 2-1/2. I wanted to be a parent more than anything else in the world! My son was in foster care from the minute he left the hospital after being born; reunification with his first mother was not an option due to her history. People told me constantly how "lucky" my son was to have me and my (now ex-) husband and it always irritated me. *We* are the lucky ones to be able to parent such a great little boy.

Answer 10

It depends on the situation.  Each situation needs to be judged on it's own merits, there is no across-the-board blanket answer to this question

Answer 11

I also believe where there's a will there's a way, but I'm not against people putting their children up for adoption.

You could ask any person who has put a child up for adoption and they will probably tell you it was the hardest decision they ever made.

People who put their kids up for adoption because they can't take care of them do it because they want the best life possible for their kids. That's not selfish at all.

Answer 12

It's dependent upon the each individual situation.  These matters cannot be judged as a whole.

Answer 13

if the child is in an better enviorment he should be okay

Answer 14

Selfless, It got to be the hardest thing in the world to give up your child. The first answer I agree with every situation is different. One particular circumstance and every woman's fear is a pregnancy due from a rape, and even worse from a man from another race, Most women would hate that child, a living reminder of the horror that they went thru. For the child sake it would be best that someone else raise that child so it can grow up loved and wanted. Unless you are a STRONG christian that can FORGIVE and move past it I see no other way.

Answer 15

Yeah like heather said, it depends on the situation. I know alot of people here think that the child staying with the birth mother is best, but thats not always the case. Its all about the childs wellbeing, and what is right for the child.

I know what you mean by "where there's a will there's a way". I guess all of us can provide for a child on the basics. I could go round putting cloth nappies on the baby etc.

Its not all that peachy unfortunatly.

Answer 16

I think adoption can be defined by either word, depending on who you are and what the situation is.

Answer 17

i think that it's a good choice. sometimes the mother is too young or on drugs or something like that and the baby would not have a good home if they were to stay with her. sometimes the baby is better off with an adopted family. also, some couples can't have children, and being able to adopt is like a blessing to them.

Answer 18

I think it all depends on the situation, there are several diffrent ways that adoption comes about....If a child is sitting in foster care becuase it's parent aren't taking care of them, and there is no chance for them to be reunited with them, then yes, i think adoption is right. If a woman gets pregnant, and doesnt want, nor feels she can take care of a child and chooses adoption, then it's probably for the best. I don't think anyone should be pressured into it, and it's not like woman who give their child up for adoption take the decision lightly.

Answer 19

no i dunt think adoption is selfless neither more selfish!! its wayy better than abortion rite?! and its way better than raising a kid that you cant provide for right?! the situation is always a better alternative, i know the kid would be like" but you didnt want me" or something but if you cant provide and you dont wanna kill the baby than adoption is always best that or Condoms!! lol