Adoption answers?

Question

my friend adopted a chlid from foster care she got the child when she was five days old and was able to adopt the child after termination of perental rights. child is now twenty and has wanted to find her siblings for quite sometime. she has been unable to help her with that the adoptive mother has a birth certificate for her the one you get when you adopt. she also has the birth mother's name and fathers name on birth certificate she also has the birthname and birthday of a sister who is 2 years older than her daughter how does she get more information adoptive mother has seen the mother and she showed the daughter but she was unstable that's how my friend got the child. she wants to know her siblings so how can she find those other sibling the adoptive mom knows of at least five one is in the same town she doesn't know if the others know if they are adopted or not the child wants to know i feel for her the adoptive mom knows some of her relatives. what does she do help

Answer 1

I think she can go back to the orphanage. They should have a record on this. She might need legal aid.

Answer 2

What a cool Mom - I applaud her for supporting her child in finding the truth of her origins!  Yay for cool and supportive adoptive moms!  They are few and far between but the ones who are not threatened are like diamonds (I know, I have one myself - she's the greatest!)

Of course the adoptee in question is an adult who does not need anyone's permission to search for her own siblings, but it's just wonderful when the adoptive family are a help rather than a hinderance

Anyway I'd love to  help your friend find her child's siblings. Do you know the State the child was born in - that would help for starters because the registries and access laws vary so much state to state

Ok start here for information on the State-Run Sibling registry:

http://laws.adoption.com/statutes/south-...

Then google South Carolina Adoption Registry and sign up to as many reunion registries as you can find.  ISRR is the largest but there are loads more

Good luck

Answer 3

Well, I don't know about adoption, but I'm a foster parent, and I'm thinking that if your friend was adopted from social services, surely they must have all her records?  If she's now an adult, those details should be available to her, I would say it's simply a matter of looking through her file.  The problem with finding her siblings may be if they're under 18, but surely she would have had some contact with them during her childhood?  Either way, I would say to contact social services.

Sorry I can't be more help, I hope your friend finds her family.

Answer 4

She needs to see if there is an adoption registry in her state.

If there is, then she should contact the adoption registry and see if her birth family signed anything that said that they wanted to reunify when she was an adult.

If so, the facilitator will tell her so and then attempt to make contact with the birth family member that said yes, and if contacted, they should be able to tell her if she has any siblings or not.

Another option would be to post the names, if she knows them, on adoption.com or try to locate what they call a "search angel" (one who helps someone search for their family at no cost...there are many who linger on adoption.com) to find her siblings.

Answer 5

THat is really nice. I can't find my fiance's birth father he is really wanting to. It cost money though.

Answer 6

what i did was go back to the courthouse in the county where i was adopted. i filled out forms there and they entered me into a registry. if her sister did the same then they will be matched up. only down fall is if sister didnt, then this is a dead end.

i agree with contacting social services, they have what you need, its just a matter of finding it.

my birthmother found my birthfather through classmates.com. it sounds cheesey, but when my son developed a medical problem we really had to find him. she went there and found a mutual friend that hooked her up with his family

also have you tried whiepages.com? you can do a nationwide search for free. watch out though, if they dont find a match they will ask you to do an advanced search, which costs money.

other than that you can pay to get a membership at those people finder places. the cost varies depending on what site you go to.

good luck on the search, and pat on the back for mom being so understanding and open about helping her daughter. many are threatened by the birthparent search (my mom and dad were/are).