Adoption during pregnancy?

Question

I am pregnant and would like to adopt 1 or 2 year old baby. I was told that I cannot adopt a baby till my biological child becomes 2 years old. Is there any way for me to start the adoption process now?

Note - We would like both our children to be financially independant before we get retired. Hence would like to adopt as soon as possible.

Answer 1

Why are you in hurry. As you are pregnet think of the baby, be happy, take care of health and dont think about adaption at this moment and get stressed.

Once you have gone through your delivery then discuss with your husband and start the process.

I appreciate your decision to adopt baby...

Answer 2

well hunny good luck with that life plan. but someone needs to tell you that you can plan all you want but life happens. as far as adpotions goes if it really means that much to you to take a kid from their real mom ( who by the way will NEVER forget about that baby) then go to dept of human services. they have alot of kids that are in foster care that will not be returned to their familys

Answer 3

This seems odd to me.  You want to adopt now so that your can make sure your children are out of your hair early enough to enjoy your retirement?  You do know that you can't guarantee getting children financially independent by any particular age, right?  I mean, of course, you could kick them out at age 18 (or whenever), but one of my siblings is 35 and not really financially independent yet.  

You should be having children out of a strong desire to love and care for them.  That doesn't get a timetable.  

I think, until you have a better sense what it is like to parent one child, planning for a second one already is a bit rash.

Answer 4

Your desire to start the adoption process while pregnant and hormones are typically unpredictable, just so you can be rid of them financially at your retirement, should send up red flags.  So, I don't think I would bother to try yet.  But, if you do, you might want to leave the reason why out of your discussions.  Then again, if you go with an agency who is just in it for the money, they might not care.

Take the time to enjoy this child you are carrying right now.  Get to know and fall in love with him, or her.  Let the bonding with this one take hold before you even think of the next child.  It may be just the way you wrote your post, or the way I read it, but it sounded more like a business plan, than a love and desire for a child.

Answer 5

One at a time is enough, believe me!

Answer 6

In Los Angeles, we have a non-profit called the Open Adoption Center.  Try them, and good luck.

Answer 7

I totally agree with you wanting to start it now. It usually take's a while with all the paperwork, etc. so it would be good to start now. You should be able to at least start the process and maybe by the time a child will be ready your baby will be older. Did the adoption center tell you that you cannot start yet? Make sure you got that information from a good start. Also, try looking at other places to adopt and maybe they will allow to you start and adopt when your child is younger.

There are many different things that may affect your case such as your age, location, how far along you are in your pregnancy, etc. You will just have to do some research. Google your area for more adoption agencies or use your phonebook. Talk with others in your area that have adopted.

Also, I believe everything happens for a reason so maybe there's something that you don't know about and that's why you're not "ready" to adopt. Maybe if you wait a few years and adopted a child who's 4 or 5 something else even better than what you have in mind will happen.

Answer 8

Adopted children often can have greater needs than bio kids.

I would encourage you to read widely on the topic - it's not just about making your family bigger - it's about caring for a child that can not live with their parents he/she was born to.

All children like to have their time to 'shine in the sun' - having a good share of their parents attention.

Adopted children can feel much more sensitive with these issues, if it's not handled well.

'Primal Wound' by Nancy Verrier would be a good place to start - written by an adoptive mother - who had a bio child and an adopted child.

Enjoy this pregnancy and the birth of your child.

Then take it from there.

You may consider financial independence of greater importance - but children just want YOU to be there - and love them unconditionally.

Life doesn't always go to plan. Remember to breathe and enjoy the sunshine - or life will be over before you know it - and you won't have had time to enjoy it all.

I wish you all the very best.