Adoption for Single Men? Hi there, i am a 25 year old single man. I am seriosly considering adoption.?

Question

i still have fears mostly because this is not cultural - not so many single men adopt. please advise me about the realities of adoption and how i can go about adopting as a single man.

Answer 1

I have to hand it to you you are one in a million for wanting to do that. I have a baby by a 25 year old and we broke up i haven't seen ao heard from him in about two months. All ican tell you is go to and adotion agency and ask for the details. Best of luck I hope you get through.

Answer 2

Israel,

I don't think there's anything wrong with a single adult (male/female) adopting but I would strongly suggest you wait another 5 years or so. Not many women want to place their child with a 25 yr.old no matter how mature they make think they feel.   I would suggest fostering a teenager. They may relate to you better than a couple trying to make them adjust to their lifestyle.

Answer 3

I shake your hand you brave brave man.

Adoption - Taking on an unwanted shild with plently of backadge and problems. Bringing them up, feeding them, clothing them, teaching them, helping them. Its a hard task to do, but rewarding.

Questions you'll be asked - ''Why do you want a child?''

''What would happen if you had your own child?''

''Can you have your own children?''

''Are you homosexual?''

''Do you have any experience in child raising?''

''Can you really commit to this?''

''How do you plan to work and be a dad?''

''What happens if you meet a lady/man who doesnt want this child?''

Things to concider - Adoption is hard for couples, so you being a single male will make it harder. It is worth seeking legal advice to make sure you are not dismissed on the fact you are 25, single and a man.

Before you contact the social - Find out where you local ''Big Brother'' sceme is (where male adults are placed with children from bad backgrounds to be a role model) this will give you a taster of what it would be like. Go through all the things you like doing, how many of them are child friendly? how many of your friends will want to stay in with you and help? how many events will you have to turn down? have you realised that a child is seen as bagadge in many womens eyes?

You must - Know whether or not you can really go ahead with this before you do anything. It is really bad to raise a childs hopes and then decide you dont want to, they will take it personally. You must also understand that raising a child takes time, money and love.

Good Luck - i hope this really helps and i admire what you are doing.

Answer 4

WHY?

Why not be a volunteer for Big Brothers/Big Sisters?

Answer 5

The realities of adoption?

Go read some adult adoptee blogs.  Go to a CUB meeting and talk to mothers who have lost their children to adoption.

If you want to know the "realities" of adoption, you'll have to realize that adoption is not all sunshine and rainbows.

There is REAL LOSS involved for two parties...the child and the mother.  The pain of separation from the child's first mother/family will NOT go away simply because he or she gets a new family.  

Do some research into the effects of adoption on the CHILD...if you really want to know the "realities", you'll come to understand that a child first has to lose EVERYTHING in order to become "yours".  

Would you want to lose your entire family, culture, heritage?  Do you think it would be an easy thing to live with every day of your life?

Do as Sunny suggested...join a big brother's program, become a mentor, volunteer to help kids who are in not-so-great of situations.  Start by just helping kids instead of helping yourself to one...it is a LIFETIME commitment, and not something to just jump into because you think it would be neat.