Adoption help!?

Question

I have two boys. They have different biological fathers, neither of which have ever done anything for my boys. My sons are 11 and 8. My husband is the only daddy they have ever known. Before he proposed to me he asked my boys if he could adopt them and with joy they accepted. So my question is can someone please tell me what we need to do to proceed with this proccess? We live in Texas if that helps. Thank you all in advance

Answer 1

You will likely need to notify the biological fathers to get parental rights terminated.  From there your lawyer can process all the paperwork & help you in court with anything that needs to be done there for the adoption to be finalized.

Answer 2

You need a lawyer and have to get the biological fathers to sign away their rights to your boys.

Answer 3

You will have to file in the state in which the boys were born. Get an attorney for the process. You will have to run an ad in the local paper stating that the boys are not their fathers boys if their fathers will not consent to give up their parental rights. Then after the fathers' rights are terminated, you can start the adoption procedures.

Answer 4

contact a good lawyer, they will take care of all the details that could be overlooked. make sure you give them all the info they need. and if it is not contested by either of the dead beats then you got it made.      good luck and God bless.

Answer 5

you have to goto family court because the 2 biological fathers have to give up their parental rights

good luck

Answer 6

Get an adoption attorney and he will take care of what you need to do.  Good luck

Answer 7

You will need to contact an adoption attorney in your area.  They will lead you through the process of having the boys birthfather's rights terminated.  Only then can you proceed with adoption.

If the birthfathers both agree to it, it will be much easier.  Otherwise, they will have to be served with papers, and then you will have to wait and see if they will respond, meaning try to get custody.  That whole process, if one or both seek custody, could take 1-2 years to settle.  If they don't respond to the serve and their rights terminated, then you can go forward with the adoption.  If they are not located, then you have to have them published on, which is a legal procedure where their info inspublished in a legal paper.  It is vital that you give all the correct information about how to locate these men.  Otherwise, if their rights are not totally protected, they can come back at any time and seek custody!

This legal work is not cheap.  It may cost you several thousand dollars, in total.  Depending on where you are and the attorney, perhaps $3000-$4000.

Most important thing you can do for the boys, even more important than your husband adopting them, is to always speak respectfully about their birthfathers.  This is a part of them.  To put the fathers down, puts them down, and it doesn't take long for kids to figure that out!

Speak in a neutral or compassionate way about them, with no eye rolling, side glances to each other, or verbal bashing, even behind closed doors.  Some suggestions are:

"I'm sure if your birthfather were doing well in his life, he would want to be a better father."

"I wish he had been able to be a good parent, but sometimes people just aren't able to."

If he were healthier (if drugs or alcohol play a part in this), I am sure he would have been able to stay in touch."

"I'm sorry your birthfather isn't able to be here for you.  But Daddy and I will always be here and we are a good family together."      

Just remember, you picked these men to have these precious boys with.  At one time, they were likable to you on some level.  Your boys need to hear this.  It is horrible for children to hear how terrible or evil or mean their birth parnet was!  That effects how they think of themselves.  Remember the good, and tell them about it.  Let them see the compassion you have for these men.  They know who to call Daddy, and they know who loves them on a daily basis.  But they also need to hear they had a good beginning.  

Good luck to you all!