Adoption? it's kind of long but I really need your help?

Question

Hey I really think that I need to be put up for adoption because I just can't seem to get along with my family and I have really thought hard about talking to my parents about it and I think that it would be best if i did but I'm just too scared to ask my parents about it and I don't want them to feel like they have let me down as a parent what do you think that I should do?

Answer 1

Let the kids that don't even have parents or a stable home have a chance to get adopted before you do(sorry if this seems kind of mean but atleast your not living out on the streets)...just try to go over to friends houses a lot more often to get out of the house

Answer 2

At the time there are estimated to be about 120,000 children in the United States WAITING to be adopted.

Every year about 17,000 children "age out" of foster care without having been adopted...

I am sure of these children MANY would like to have the chance just to be in your situation.... with your family disfunctional or not...

Those children waiting were abused, neglected or living in risky situations... those children waiting Usually Love the family they were taken from--disfunctional or not...

Which one of these kids should be left to age out because some little girl just didn't speak up for herself and get real with her parents...

Parents can't read their kids minds so--if you have a problem talk with them....  some kids just wish they had that chance.

Answer 3

Every child and their parents have disagreements. Some more then others... but no matter what they are your parents. I'm sure they love you very much, and would be very hurt if you asked to be given new parents. How old are you? You obviously aren't 10 years old therefore couldn't have all that long before you're legally an adult and can make your own decisions. I would maybe try to sit down with your parents like an adult and discuss things that could make the parent-teen relationship easier.. (It might not help, but it could)

Afterall as long as your parents are providing you clothing, shelter, and food you're better off then a lot of kids are. Be thankful for them.

(I'm only 21 and growing up I really didn't get a long with my mother, but now her and i are okay because i realize she just did what she thought was best for me when i was growing up.)

Answer 4

i dont think you should do that okay

Answer 5

Not getting along very well with your parents isn't a good enough reason to have their parental rights terminated.  You also say you don't want them to feel like they "let you down" as parents.  That tells me they haven't really let you down.  Does that mean that they are not abusing you?  If they are abusing you, then you should contact child protective services or another adult you trust like a teacher, clergy person, doctor or counselor.  

However, because you feel you are having a hard time getting along with your parents, you may want to discuss things with a school counselor anyway, to see if there is a way for you and your parents to work through some of this.

Answer 6

I think you should be grateful for the home you are being provided. Most teens never get adopted even if they have no parents at all.

Answer 7

if you are old enough i think you should get a part time job or join some sports team so you can get away fr the family.

Answer 8

Girl you don't know what you are talking about. Your are going through puberty, everybody goes through it. You are lucky you have a family. You don;t know what it is like to NOT have a family and parents. You sound like are looking for attention. When you don't get it here you get mad, you ARE acting like a spoilt brat. With that attitude, you'd wouldn't last a minute out on the streets without parents to hide behind.

Maybe you should tell them, so they can throw you out of the house. You need to learn some humility.

HOWEVER, you seem nice enough and love you parents enough to consider their feelings. That's very good, it shows that you are intellegent and caring. So why don't you try to figure out what the problem is and work it out with your family/parents. Talk to them, spend more time with them. You are growing up and you need your own space too. Try joining some clubs, or take up a constructive hobby to fill your time with. Talk to your guidance counselor see if they can help.

Answer 9

She said it...^^^^ You should be grateful, not saying you aren't, but in reality most teenagers don't get adopted out.. Also no teenager gets along with their family....that's part of being a teenager....

Answer 10

Let me guess that your a teenager.

When I was 11 I was removed from my adoptive parents home for abuse by child protection.

From then until I aged out at 18, I was transferred from foster home to foster home. These were usually elderly people that lived out in the middle of the country. You were given a bed & a dresser... the very basics. You followed the rules, or life was h**l. I was once hit over the head with a cast iron frying pan because I didnt clean it properly. When their "real" family came to visit, we were given two bucks and told to walk to town for the day (a 45 minute walk each way) There were no new clothes, no family vacations, $1.25 allowence per week (thats what they were given for us), no hugs, no talks, we were allowed a shower once a week, no hugs, no treats, nothing.

There's also no chances to hang with friends beyond school hours since we were so far out of town (and my experience is that most foster homes are in the country) we wern't even allowed to use the phone, unless we were calling a family member or our social worker.

If you really are being abused, it's better. But its no way to grow up

Answer 11

Well no matter how hard it may seem, you need to talk with your parents. Tell them how you feel, and what you think. If you just cannot do it, talk to another relative. Siblings or grandparents are your best bet.  

                           Best of Luck!

Answer 12

You don't need to feel grateful...gag.   They're your parents, they're supposed to take care of you.  You do need to respect them, though (As long as they aren't abusing you in any way, of course).  

Parents generally are trying to protect their children and help them grow into responsible adults.  I know this sounds old-fashioned, but they really do and say the things they do for your own good and because they love you, not to be mean.

I have no idea what your situation is, but I suggest you try to talk with your parents about whatever is bothering you.  If you can't talk to them, go to your school counselor and talk to them about what's going on.  Good luck.

P.S.  If you're a teenager, don't forget that nearly all teenagers argue and don't get along with their parents.  It's a normal part of growing up...definitely not a reason to get adopted, and btw you probably would have the same if not more problems with any set of parents/parental figures that took you in.