Adoption of a baby/new born?

Question

I am a g*y man, in a long term relationship, living in thte UK, who is looking to adopt a baby/new born.

Can anyone suggest sources s of info for adopting a baby/new born? Or has anyone adopted a baby/new born themselves?

Answer 1

It would probably be very difficult to adopt an infant.  In general, the birth mother is permitted to select the adoptive parents from among many profiles.  Most birth mothers want their babies adopted by fairly young, affluent, heterosexual couples.

Have you looked into surrogacy instead?  I have heard of several g*y couples who have had children by engaging a surrogate mother to carry the child.  Generally the sperm of one of the Dads is used, so the child is biologically related.  I read about one couple who went this route.  BOTH donated sperm, and the surrogate mother was inseminated with both, so no one knew who the biological father was.

Answer 2

Many, many straight, traditional UK couples are finding it very, very difficult to adopt now.  There have been new laws in the last few years passed in the UK regarding qualifications to adopt.  But try PACT Adoptions.  Great website and lots of info.  Also, try going to adoption groups locally.  There you will get tons of info.  Good luck!!

Answer 3

Hi there

Have just read your question i have a friend who is pregnant and is looking to put up her baby for adoption.  It is due in about 3months and is looking for a family or couple to take care of it.

If you are interested please contact me

Answer 4

http://www.adoption.com

Answer 5

Hi

I would forget the idea of a newborn unless your prepared to wait and wait and maybe never have children.

I would think about the reasons for wanting a newborn/young baby and then think why you cant open your family to older children, or even special needs kids.

Most older children/special needs kids have so much more to give as alot of them will of been in the system for a while.

An older child can offer lots of love and you can build a very strong relationship with a child who can communicate.

A special needs child can offer the same, plus bring out a caring side to even the toughest of men! (g*y or straight!)

Think about it and then speak with your partner and think about it seriously, adoping any child is harder than just having a baby as you will have to earn the trust of a child who has already been abandoned by the parents and adults he was brought into this world by.

Good luck with your search for a family

Wish you all the best...

Sam

Answer 6

Hi,

  I`m in the process of adopting. I live in Spain but am adopting from China. Social services run a pre -adoption course and I clearly remember one session with  the lawyer telling us that there is no country in the world that permits g*y couples to adopt.

I don`t know if that is true because I have seen g*y couples with adopted children. ????

But I do know that there were g*y people on my course who were adopting as "single parents" i.e. only one personm in the couple was doing the parework and applying for the adoption.

Contact  your local social services department first .

Good Luck

Answer 7

Goodluck, I live in New Zealand so Im not sure about the logistics of it, but from what Ive heard, its very hard to adopt healthy white children in the US and UK (and even here)

May I suggest you dont knock back the older kids, or special needs children?(there are varying types of special needs theyre not all full on wheelchairs etc)  if you want a healthy newborn baby your chances are much slimmer.

Either way... goodluck :)

Answer 8

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Adop...

Try this site, it may help.

Good luck!!

Answer 9

well its super hard to adopt.. i know theese people who live in a humonus house, and are a great family  and have foreign exchane students at their house, yet they were not passed to adopt..

Answer 10

It is really hard for anyone to adopt a newborn as there are not many available,in UK.the waiting list could be years,and even then there is a cut off age for prospective adopters. i think it is 40 years between parents/child .

there are hundreds of older children needing adopted.i plan on applying to adopt a school age child when i am older. am adopted myself,and like to return the favour!