Adoption or Abortion???

Question

With all the reaseach now available to show long term effects on peoples lives.

Which is the less harmful, to whom, and why???

Answer 1

Most adoptees grow up with very real and hurtful issues because of their adoption.  (Most. not  all.)

A lot of first-mothers regret ever giving up their babies.

A lot of women regret abortions, but the percentage is no where NEAR comparable to those who relinquished.

Obviously the long term effects are going to be bigger for those involved with adoption... those effects are a LIFETIME long.  

Answer 2

I would rather let my baby get adopted then to sacrifice his/her life.One day i would answer for that and what would be my answer.Many people die during abortions but not adoption.

Answer 3

I don't believe in abortion just because you don't want to have the kid.  Medical / rape victims - it's what they believe in...but again, this is just my personal opinion!

Answer 4

It really depends a lot on your individual situation.  Some women have more trouble with abortion in the long term because they cannot come to terms with the loss of the potential of a baby.  Some women have more trouble with adoption long term because they cannot come to terms with the fact that they've given up their own flesh and blood and knowing that their child is out there somewhere being raised by someone else.

Whatever the decision it needs to be followed up immediately by counseling.  But both can work.  It is mostly a matter of what would be easier for you to accept.

Answer 5

I have some reading for you.

http://www.exiledmothers.com/adoption_fa...

Answer 6

Both are going to have a major effect on the parent that has to make that choice . Each has its down side and and my opion neither has a up side but it gives all parents a way to try to make a choose. I am glad i never had to deal with either but my heart goes out to all that do have to deal with making this decition. I dont like abortion however i am not one to step in and judge someone who makes this choose.Its their decition and i respect it even though i dont understand their decition. I cant imagine being a mother making this choose and going to a abortion clinic only to find out people on the outside protesting her decition COME ON PEOPLE it would be a hard desition to make we dont have to make it harder on them. Its better than finding a baby in a trash can.And for all of you looking into abortion please consider adoption however it is your choose  

Answer 7

i know just about as many women who have had an abortion as placed their baby for adoption.

the adoption group has the most regret.

ETA: thanks for the thumbs down, ya'll :-)

sunny, you have a point.  but seriously, i also found that the "fetus-philes" are likewise against birth control, family planning and s*x education.  seems kinda counter-intuitive to me.

Answer 8

Me and my brother both were adopted and we both lived very normal lives, we've known from day 1 we were adopted & our biological mothers had to do what they did for us a better life and even to find out my mother has six other children she kept.  I'm soo glad my mother chose to put me up for adoption rather than abortion. Even all of the things I've been through in my life & with my adopted family I wouldn't have it any other way. My purpose in life was to be here, as is for every other child. There are alot of people out there that would love to adopt. I just believe that child was put there for a reason. Every child has a purpose in this world weather it be with the biological mother or with someone else. In the end It's the mothers choice and how will it make you feel for the rest of your life if you did or you didn't give that child a chance to live the life he/she was meant for.  

Answer 9

They. Both. Rock!

For expectant mothers, adoption and abortion are very important choices. For some, terminating the pregnancy makes more sense. For others and adoption plan works better.

What doesn't work for mother OR child is the most common scenario: keeping children when they don't have the emotional, personal or financial resources to do it well.

ETA - it is sad and not surprising that the women who most oppose adoption also won't support abortion. Instead they respond to the reality of crisis pregnancies with the demand that they just don't happen (kind of funny in an adoption discussion where we all know that they just do) or that the unprepared mothers do it anyway. It is time to grow up, girls.

Answer 10

It's ultimately up to you, but both options are safe.. Watch Juno, then make a decision.

Answer 11

I guess I don't like this question because I am adopted. But I have had a pretty easy life, and I didn't end up in foster care.I was put up for adoption before I was born, and for as long as I can remember I was able to see my birth parents.

The thought of me not existing terrifies me. I think of all the people I stood up for in school, and how many people I've told to XYZ and wondered what would have happened if I hadn't been there.

Answer 12

They're not even on the same place on a time line.

How about parent?

Answer 13

I think it depends on your beliefs. Some people believe that a fetus/unborn child is a human being and therefore feel abortion is murder.  Some people believe a fetus/unborn child is not a human being and therefore feel that abortion is a medical procedure.  

If you believe abortion is murder, then obviously that has the "most harm".  

I think it is purely subjective, personally.  

Answer 14

Adoption.. it at least gives the child a chance at life.

Abortion is 100% selfishness, unless the woman had no choice because she was raped or the pregnancy endangers her life

In all other cases, she's making someone else (her child) suffer because of her s***w-up

And it can SERIOUSLY mess up a girl, psychologically..

Answer 15

Abortion Better than Adoption says European Parliamentary Assembly

http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2008/jun...

Answer 16

that is a very individual decision for the mother to be to decide

Answer 17

Adoption gives a child a chance at life, abortion doesn't give a chance at life.

Answer 18

Well, is there a father? Are you going to have to work? Have you done everything you can to be an independent person? What are your plans for the next 5 years?

Can you have a baby with help?

You will have regret either way if you have a tough road to climb. Do you love babies? Can you raise a baby to be a person with responsibility?

It cost a lot of money to have a baby. But if you think this is the most important thing in your life...then have the baby.

Answer 19

Depends on what u believe.

Some believe that it would be more harmful on you (emotionally and maybe physically) to have an abortion and that you are "killing a life".

Others will say, it's harder on you (emotionally and maybe physically) to have a child living and growing inside of you then give it up for adoption and wonder and worry about it for the rest of your life,not to mention the stress of childbirth on your body, but at least the child lives and may go to a good home (then again could end up in foster care until they are 18).

Many "what-ifs" on the subject.

Answer 20

Adoption

I believe abortion is wrong unless medically necessary to save the mother's life and then I think they should try to save the child if possible. I personally would not get an abortion if a child was conceived out of rape but I do not criticize those who do because that would be a terribly difficult situation.

However, my personal beliefs aside, adoption gives a child a chance at life and abortion doesn't. I think that's the simplest way to explain it in terms of benefits to the child. Does abortion sometimes benefit the parent? Yes. There are many people out there who give a child up for adoption and then regret it their whole lives. It's a very difficult decision. I would assume most of those people grow to wish they kept the child and raised it themselves and not that they aborted it, but it is definitely easier for some people to choose abortion. However, it doesn't mean it's the right thing to do and abortion never benefits the child. There are many reasons why people choose abortion and I'll be the first to say that I haven't personally experienced what any of them have, but I believe if you make a choice to have s*x then it is your responsibility to raise the child or place them up for adoption so someone else can raise them. I know there are many parents out there who choose to keep their children and then treat them horribly or let them grow up in neglectful situations and that sucks and that's not how it should be. It doesn't mean that's not how things are but it's definitely not how it should be. In an ideal world people would be able to put their children before themselves and either do the best they can to parent their children or make the decision, no matter how hard, to give their child a chance at life by giving them up for adoption. I'm not talking about single mothers who care about their children and do the best they can to survive with no help from the fathers, but people who don't give a c**p and only care about themselves.

And to the people who say neither, use birth control, you're absolutely right but that doesn't change that people don't always do that which is why there is now a question of which is the next best thing.

Heather B - you say you are adopted and then post a link for a site promoting abortion? I am really just asking to know and not to be rude but do you wish your mother aborted you?

Answer 21

Why not be responsible and avoid them both by using birth control?