Adoption outside your own race ?

Question

What do you think about adoption outside your own race ?

Will the kid miss his /her cultural background ?

Why is it that i see often white couples with Asian or Black adopted kids but i never saw an Asian or Black couple with an adopted kid outside their race ?

Do the adoption centers make it harder for them ?

We are a bi -racial couple (Afro-American- German)with one own kid and we are thinking /planing an adoption . I don't care what race my future adopted kid will have , but i am very curious to get answers for my questions .

Sorry for my lame English , i am German.

Answer 1

I know a couple who couldn't have children so they  have adopted children of at least four races ... Native American, African-American, Caucasian and Korean. The kids get along well with each other and with their peers at school. The adults are doing their best to keep each child's background up front.

Answer 2

It's ok as long as you can handle the inconsiderate stares from some busy bodies. I'm Chinese and my 1st adopted child is a mixed Malay.

You can try adoption agency instead of centre. The difference is adoption agency will not ask so many question as compared to adoption centre where they will try to best match the closest race as possible.

I'm not too worried about the cultural background as they will still learn about it when they grow up and mature enough to realised the difference and respect all culture.

My only setback is the behavioural and response from a different race child tends to be different from the same race. It's difficult to explain as they perceive things very differently which are hereditary. Cause I do have a biological child who's more predictable. Whereas the adopted ones required lots of attention and discipline. I have to seek professional help to tame his temper when 6 of my helpers left. :-(

Answer 3

Just because you may adopt outside of your race...doesnt mean that you cant bring in their cultural background as well. You can still make it a part of their life.

Adoption centers do not make it harder for them. There are just a lot more africal american children in the system that need placement. I say this because I work for the state in the Foster Care/ Adoption department and that is honestly how it is and what the statistics are and what I see every day.

I dont think there is anything wrong with a couple adopting someone from another race and as long as you bring into your home a little of where they come from etc...i think that's wonderful.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

I don't see a problem with it at all. I am a white (italian american) and plan to have both bioligical and adopted children. It will not matter to me at all what color skin my child has. It's just not that big a deal to me. But that also does not mean that my future children will not be brought up to know there culture. Culture to me is a big part of my life. It's pretty much who I am, and I believe everyone should know theres and have special parts of there life that come from it.

The only thing I would worry about, is what others are going to do. There will be people when your at the store as a family, who will not hesitate to scream out names and to insult you. But you need to just try to get past that, and teach your children to accept all.

I think that is a great that your thinking of adopting. It is such an amazing thing that gives a future to children who may other wise not have as much of one.

Answer 5

As long as a child is getting love and a good home, the color of the parents and child is irrelevant. You see many white couples with minority children because they are easier to get. The list is long for white babies and young white children, someone on that list might have to wait years, unless they go through a private adoption.

Someone one who adopted a child of a different race or culture can certainly teach the child about that. I know someone who adopted two Chinese children, and they do celebrate some of the Chinese holidays, and read books about China and things. It can be a learning experience for the entire family when you think about it. So really in a way adopting a child that’s from a different culture or background can greatly in rich your life’s.

There are certainly cases of other races adopting children that are not the same race as them. I recently read of a black woman who adopted a white girl, grant it there was a lot of debate over it but now this girl is a well adjusted young woman and has no issues about her mother being black, and she white. But you defiantly  do see more White couples adopting  none white children.