Adoption pros and cons?

Question

any answers would be great...<3

Answer 1

i was adopted when i was four, it caused alot of unhappiness and bitter disappointment, my adoptive parents where absolute god send perfect but always felt a part of me missing, i had irritating questions my adoptive family couldnt answer and a void in my soul that no one could fill, i finally found my birth mum when i was fourteen- ten years since we set eyes on each other, she was (is) a full blown alky with six kids all around foster homes in west  sussex. its nice ppl want to give needy kids a home but i believe it causes alot of grief when they get older.

Answer 2

Wow I wish I could sum this up easily.

Pros

You get to give a very deserving child a forever home.  A loving family that he or she might now have ever had known had it not been for your kindness.

I will admit there could be a lot of drawbacks to adoption along the way of raising your adopted child.

I was adopted as a baby, and I was never made to feel as if I were not a real family member.  I&#039;m not now or ever been treated different.  My parents love all of thier children the same and this means me too.

I read above about how some folks had drawbacks with being adopted or adopting.

As long as you raise the child with a strong sense of family then there really should be no &quot;identiy&quot; problems.

Answer 3

can you provide a bit more information?  your question is vague.

Answer 4

Go to an orphanage! (for 2 months)

Then get adopted!

jack

Answer 5

domestic adoptions in the US can be very difficult and expensive-  if you want an infant.  My sister and husband have been waiting to adopt for a long long time.  They finally got their chance, and almost a month after the baby was with them, the birth parents changed their minds, and the child was taken from them. They are heart broken, and now are looking into international adoption instead. Cons-  expensive and unpredictable!

Answer 6

like for what,

to put your baby up for adoption or to adopt a child?

Well ill do it for putting your baby up for adoption,

pro&#039;s

-you get to pick a nice  family, thats has everything a baby could need

-you can have an open adoption, and see your baby from time to time

-you know your baby will get the best of everything

cons

-not get to see your baby grow up

-knowing there is someone out there that is yours

-having to go through labor and then have to hand over your baby

-the what if&#039;s in life, &quot;what if i kept my child?&quot; etc..

Answer 7

You will find happy adoption stories and sad ones. I think the keys to a successful (happy) adoption are:

-- Motives of the parents. Are you okay raising and loving a child that is not biologically yours? Be honest. If bloodline is important, if you want her to have &quot;your eyes,&quot; then adoption is not right for you and is definitely not fair to the child.

-- Being open, honest, and secure. You can&#039;t (and you shouldn&#039;t) keep the adoption story secret or pretend that adopting is &quot;just the same&quot; as having a birth child. Sure, a lot of it is! But there are important differences. Your child will have questions and will maybe someday feel the need to connect with his birth family. You have to support that and you have to be willing to answer some difficult questions along the way.

-- Extended family support. If you&#039;ve got potential grandparents, aunts, uncles or cousins who aren&#039;t comfortable with adoption, it&#039;s going to be harder to succeed. Sometimes people will APPEAR to be supportive, but reveal their prejudices anytime your child gets in trouble or fails a class, gossiping about what the genetic cause is. Listen between the lines. Sometimes people just need to be educated...

-- Become an advocate. If a well-meaning friend or relative has a question or comment about your child&#039;s &quot;real&quot; parents, you&#039;ve got to (lovingly) set them straight. Immediately.

Answer 8

I was adopted as a baby. My adoptive mother really wanted children but she died when my brother (also adopted) and I were kids.  I always felt adopted. I would look around at our family and no one looked like me. Their family history was not mine and I have no knowledge of my biological family&#039;s medical history. my extended adoptive family are wonderful people and I would not trade them for anything, but my father and I do not get along, I never felt like his daughter. plus my brother has a mental illness, it would have been nice to know his biological parent&#039;s history so that maybe he could have gotten help sooner. I have cousins who are also adoptive, they seem to be better about it, but then they had good parents. I guess it all depends