Adoption.?

Question

R u adopted? i am. trans-racially. Do you know someone who's adoption failed? Do u ever regret being adopted? why?

Answer 1

I am adopted, yes. I was adopted age five, and I know people whose adoptions have failed. Some whom have been told they were going to get adopted, then the adoptive parents dropped out. My birth mother disappeared when I was five and we couldn't find her for a long time.

I don't regret being adopted exactly, I just wonder how different both my own life and the life of both my biological and adoptive families would be if I had never been adopted by my current family, and if I was with my biological mother.

That I think, is the question many adopted people ask. How different would their life be, if they in fact had of had the opportunity to remain with their biological family.

Answer 2

I am adopted.  I do know 3 people who have had failed adoptions.  Two were given up by their adoptive families.  One was taken from the adoptive family by child protective services.

I don't regret being adopted, since I was in foster care and I wouldn't have wanted to spend my whole childhood there.  I do regret  that things were such that my natural parents could not  raise me.  Not that I didn't love my adoptive mother (she's dead now,) but it's just sad when people are unable to raise their children and that whole loss ends up happening.

Answer 3

no i dont regret it. i had a great life and was loved. i do regret waiting so long to find my bioparents. i waited out of fear. i did not want to disrupt their lives. i assumed there was a very good reason why i was given up, and i wasnt positive i wanted to find them in the same state.

but i found them anyway, and am glad i did.

my adoptive family is great, they didnt understand me, but they tried. we are just different types of people. i always have been and always will be the oddball. i accept and even appreciate that title.

my life wasnt perfect, i had many problems. but they did their best to support me. they failed on occation, but i dont harbor any anger about that. no parent is perfect.

i dont know anyone that had a failed adoption. at least not anyone that is willing to talk about it.

Answer 4

I'm adopted.  I have my issues with that, but I don't regret it.