Do most AP's adopt out of 'necessity'...i.e. fertility problems? There have been numerous posts here lately from families who cannot have children.....and turn to adoption. While I am not trying to discount or criticize any legal path to adoption....I never came to adoption due to infertility issues. What is disconcerting for me when someone has 'tried so long to get pregnant' or 'can't have bio children'...is that it *seems* like they are seeking a runner-up. I talked about adoption from the day I received my first doll (Cabbage Patch Kids with adoption certs..lol)...and my husband and I talked about it before getting married. I know most AP's did/do not view their adoptive child as a 'runner-up'....but how do you tell your a child about his adoption..."well, we tried for 2 years to get pregnant, but we couldn't so we found adoption". I know that isn't your line, but what do you tell them if they are in your family due to infertility--i.e. you wouldn't have adopted otherwise? Thanks!
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