Adoption should i wait?

Question

I have always wanted to adopted but i have no idea if i should wait until i am married or not?

Answer 1

Depends on how long it is before you marry. Sometimes it's important to the significant other if you have a child or not.

Answer 2

I think you should wait.

Answer 3

start now because it could probably be years before that find somebody for you. And besides you could be a single parent with a child. Remember Ralona and Penny from Good Times? Yeah

Answer 4

I think you should wait.  I speak from experience on both sides of the issue. I was adopted as an infant and raised in a stable home with a Mom, Dad and an older adopted sibling.

It is true that kids can grow up to be OK adults with only one parent in the home, but there are a LOT more out there who are messed up and have major issues with men because they had no decent, in-home model while they were growing up of  a loving relationship between a man and woman.

I also was pregnant at 21 and gave the baby girl up. I insisted that the baby be placed with an established married couple, and thank heavens I did.  Five years later I married her father and we were married 10 years and had a son. I had a very difficult time raising him because my spouse was little or no help. The marriage ended, but the emotional scars my son has will stay with him for a long time I fear. At least my daughter wasn't put thru it as well. ( ps she found me  at age 21 and we're great friends!)

That is why I think you should wait.  A child's life is too important to just do what YOU want to do -- you need to think  of the CHILD.  Get a good, decent God-fearing man in your life who has integrity FIRST!! --- and then your children will be blessings to you both.  Best of luck and love to you!

Answer 5

Depends on how old you are and if you have a good income to support both of you.

Answer 6

if your ready then your ready and im sure you will be a great mother.

good luck

Answer 7

If you feel that you are ready to care for a child, make sure then that it is done through a reptuable agency.  Also, you need to be somewhat financially secured and have the mindset that this is what you are wanting.  

I see no reason as for you to wait until you are married.  It seems to be the common theme lately (amongst celebs.) but again only if you are ready.

I don't think either that I would do any fostering of children.  Just for the simple fact that you could be dragged into a situation that you may not welcome.  By this I mean that the agency sees that you are willing to do some fostering, and they might continually use you for that only, and not what you had originally wanted.  Also, you do become attached to the children easily and quickly.  To turn around and have to give them back would be hard.  It would be for me.  Make sure that you state specifically what you are after.

Good luck and oh yeah, you don't need to have a man to adopt a child.  If and when you do meet your prince charming, he will completely be accepting of you and your family.

Answer 8

I think its best for a child to have a father and mother in its life. If you are finacially ready for a child and think you can accept the responsibility yourself then consider it. But a children can be very demanding and you should take every thought into it.

Answer 9

Alot depends on your age and "you".  Is there a possibility that you could meet someone who shares your interest in this??? I think most men would want a biological child first, but possibly not all.  If you are 25 or younger, I would wait a bit, you have time.  Take the time to do your research, read, attend seminars, go and talk with someone at a local adoption agency.  The more you know about the process, the better off you will be when you do decide to take that road.

Answer 10

it depends on your circumstances but you sound a little unsure yourself so I think you are probably not ready yet and maybe you should wait a little while

Answer 11

It is up to you....what is most important to you.

Answer 12

how old are you, are you in a relationship? if your single, just make sure that you have a good support system and it would be helpfull if your family is on board and ready to help you with the challenges ahead. personally i would wait till i was married, it is tough being a single parent ( i have observed anyway)

Answer 13

I always thought I wanted to adopt a large sibling group as a single parent. I never quite got that far because I lived in a run down mobile home. I'm now co-parenting a teenager with my husband and her birth mom, and I don't know how single parents, specifically those who work outside the home, do it!

Answer 14

You should wait until you:

1.  Can spell

2.  Can type with proper grammar and punctuation.

3.  Know you are ready.  If you have to "ask" permission, then you are not ready.

4.  Have the ability without a mate, but with a great support system of friends and family, to parent successfully.

5.  Are financially, emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually able (not wanting) to give a child an amazing, stable, active, secure, educated life!

Answer 15

Why don't you foster a child for a while and see how you cope. I'd wait until you are married to adopt always make inquires see where you stand about adoption. Kids are with you forever even when they leave home they still need you.

Answer 16

I'm married, and there are days that I don't know how I could survive parenting if I was a single mother.  I truly admire all of the single parents out there!  :)  

It's a personal decision that only you can make though.  Take some time and think about whether or not you can devote the time and energy needed to raise a child on your own.  Your heart will give you the answer you're looking for.

Answer 17

i think you should wait until your married so that way you can have someone to help you with the adopted child