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Adoption vs. Abortion?

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I've noticed on here that everyone is SO against abortion. You rarely find someone willing to say "That is the best choice for you. Here are the facts:" I mean, people practically jump all over someone for even asking about it.

However, then you you come into this section and people constantly say "You are abandoning your baby!" "How could you give your baby away like that..."

It's almost like you're darned if you do, and you're darned if you don't. What is a woman supposed to do if she really cannot take care of her child, but wants to give it life?

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  1. She should ignore all the people that have no impact on her life or her circumstances and do what is best for HER.


  2. find a loving family member to take care of the baby,and if your not able to take care of a child keep your dam legs crossed and if you must open them make sure you do it 4 love with a man that is responsible dont just open your legs to any one you think is hot.

  3. She would not concieve in the first place. Its really not that difficult.

  4. People think that adoption is one of the worst things in the world but its not because most of your adoption's now adays are Open Adoption's and you can get Visits with your children or Picture's and Update's Of your children so you know that they are being well taken care of.

    Abortion, I'm against abortion because I believe that deep down in my heart I know that babies can feel the pain on being killed during the abortion. People may think that the babies don't feel anything but in all truth they feel everything that's why when your doctor that does the abortion injects the liquid into the womb the baby tries to move away from it.

    If you end up with an Unplanned Pregnancy and you know you can't take care of the baby, then give it a chance at life put the baby up for adoption.

    Or if you decided to keep your baby your local department of social services has programs that can help you raise your baby.

  5. Her body, her business.

    A woman has three choices for an unwanted pregnancy:

    abort

    carry to term and adopt out

    carry to term and keep it.

  6. well i say put it up for adoption because you dont want it to die.but be sure that you cant take care of it.anyways you dont want the baby to die!

  7. I know it must be a hard choice but I would highly suggest adoption. Being a women who may never be able to conceive her own child, I dream of eventually having a child - and that child will be adopted. My husband and I have suffered a lot during our conception journey - miscarriage, surgeries, cancer scare, lab work, ultra-sounds (but no joy of seeing a little baby), and now endometriosis. I have a (maximum) 7% chance of conceiving our own child and after many many many unsuccessful months we are now facing the grim future, possibly without a child.

    I'm depending on women, who are faced with this decision between abortion and adoption, to decide on adoption. I'm DEPENDING on it. The waiting lines for adoption are sometimes over 4 years! If more women opened their hearts and spoke to the couples going through infertility, I think they would feel better about adoption. Adoption is not abandoning your child; you are allowing the dreams of another couple to come true! A dream that may never come true!

  8. I think that everyone is diffrent and no two situations are the same, and in some cases abortion is the answer. I don't think I could ever have an abortion, but I have never been in a situation where that was my only choice. I was pregnant when I was 16 with my oldest son, I was in the middle of a horriable divorce with my youngest son, but having an abortion was never an option for me. And I think the fact that I was adopted, that my birth mother gave me a change at life, how could I take that away from a baby. But I love my children very much and if a Dr. told me if I had a baby I would most likly die, I would have an abortion. I could not leave my 4 children alone to grow up with out a mother. At the same time I could never give a child up for an adoption either. My whole life I have wondered what my birth mother was like and how she felt. I had a wonderful mother who gave me the best life anyone could ask for, but I still always wondered and I would not want to do that to my child. And at the same time I am very glad that is the decission my birth mother made, because I had the best life possiable. Some mothers feel that is there only choice and only they know, only they have to life with their decission.

  9. It's up to the mother, what she feels is right, it's her child, she can abort it or put it up for abortion depending on her own opinion!

    Society has this problem, of enforcing its morals onto other people, mothers, I encourage you to think for yourselves of the matter, and don't give a toss what people may try to tell you. It's your own heart you should listen to!

    ok and the fathers too....

  10. adoption and abortion are completely different.

    i tend to leave reproductive choice to the person.  i will, however, state that if ranked, i would place PARENTING over adoption.

  11. She should make an adoption plan.  I'm sick of hearing that double-standard too.

    Pro-adoption/Anti-abortion

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    Thumbs down, why?  abortion is the ultimate form of child abuse.  You don't like the pictures?  If you don't see the murdered baby, then it's alright?

  12. I was adopted and I feel that if you are willing to give your baby life and find it a loving home you are the hero in an unpleasant situation.  I will always think my birth mother is my hero no matter what problems she had or still has.  She took a desperate situation and made it beautiful.  You are not damned if you do what you know is right.  We are not all walking around with irreparable holes in our hearts.  I have never met a biological child who did not have pain from growing up it is all part of becoming an adult.  Adoption gives children a chance to be that is always better than death.

    Autumn-I thank God my biological mother did not feel like you!!  Being raised by your biological mother is no guarantee of happiness and being adopted is no guarantee  

    of deep sadness.  You can not make generalized statements about adoption.  Giving I child a chance is always better that assuming the worst and eliminating a chance for life.  By that logic we should kill everyone that has a chance of not being happy.

  13. I am pro-choice all the way because the only actual live human in this case is the woman and if some people want to say that she - he is free he-she must control their oun body and mind

  14. I agree with you - I have seen some of the posts/answers here and they are mind boggling at best. A lot of people become judgmental because of situations they are currently in (infertility, religion, etc) and don't understand (or don't want to understand) the other persons situation at all. Also there is that allure of anonymity, where they can bash someone and act like a bully without suffering any consequence.

    A woman should always do what is best for her and the baby in the long run (abortion, adoption or keeping the pregnancy). I am pro-choice/pro-woman. I have nothing against any of the options and could care less if anyone jumps all over me for expressing my opinion.

  15. Totally agree. I was anti abortion until I had to have one. Now I see that sometimes its better for the family, the baby and everyone else. Safe s*x isnt always safe and accidents happen. Though those who use no protection, fall pregnant and have an abortion I look upon badly, as thats asking for trouble.

    I defiantly could never adopt a baby out., That would hurt like h**l, knowing somewhere out there, someone else is looking after my baby!

  16. I agree with Tish. I'm not sure how the two are even comparable. They involve two different decisions. The first:

    Carry to term v. Not Carry to term

    The Second: Parentv. Parent

    IMO, if someone is considering adoption, then they've already decided to carry to term. If someone is contemplating abortion, then they aren't even at a point of considering adoption yet.

    I too would encourage someone parenting over adopting out their child, but as far as abortion goes, I'll let them decide whether that is best for them or not.

  17. When I answer a question regarding what to do in that kind of situation, I tell them to make sure they fully understand all of their options and then make the choice that is best for them based on their own life, circumstances, etc. Then I tell them to make sure they get the support and follow up they need in accordance with whatever decision they make.

  18. I'm not against abortion. I think it's often the best option, to be honest.

  19. I don't think adoption or abortion are selfish. I think its a really tough decision are your punished for being stupid enough for getting pregnant in the first place. I am not anti-abortion in some circumstances. I think its sometimes neccesary. A mother would be soo selfish to keep a child when they can't look after it instead of giving it up for adoption. Its just giving it a chance at a happy life.

  20. I think the situation you're noticing is just that out of the large population of people on Yahoo! Answers, many of them are pro-life, and many are pro-choice. In my opinion, it's the woman's choice. When she can't raise the baby, many times abortion is right. Like if she was raped at a young age and her body couldn't handle a pregnancy. But if she was old enough to deal with the pregnancy, and it wasn't a rape situation, it would probably be best to carry out the pregnancy and give up the child. Babies especially get adopted, and the people who adopt are great, warm, caring people who know how to give the child a nurturing home life. However, if nobody had abortions, the adoption systems would quickly get clogged of too many children and become underfunded. It's hard on the system already to take care of the children it already has. It can handle a few more, but not enough if a full-blown abortion ban was set up.

  21. I got pregnant when i was 17 years old and i was with the father at the time then he left me. I had concidered abortion at the time and realized i didn't have the heart to do it. I ended up having her and placing her for adoption. Looking at her seconds after she was born being placed in my arms i thought about what decision i almost made and killed me to think that i might not have ever met this little miracle from heavenly father. My personal opinion is that you are being unselfish by giving this little person life and better future. If you really cannot raise a child..don't kill it. Be selfless and give your child life. They didn't do anything wrong.

  22. It all depends on what is best for the mother of the baby. Personally, I'm not against abortion. I think its often a good choice for many women. However, adoption is also a good choice for someone who wants their baby to be given life.

  23. Abortion, a child should not be created to be given away.

    Oh, and the silent scream is a crock, check this out:

    http://www.plannedparenthood.org/issues-...

    In my opinion, I think that a human life is created at the moment of conception. I will not argue that point. I am however, pro-choice. ( I AM ALSO VERY MUCH ANTI-ADOPTION, but that is another discussion for another time). The way I look at it is lets say that a person with a rare blood disorder also has a very rare blood type, and they need to be hooked up to someone for 9 months. After 9 months they will be cured forever. The only person with a compatible blood type in the world is you. So in the middle of the night the sick persons family comes and kidnaps you. I don't think that it is your responsibility to save this person by giving your body to them. I think it is WONDERFUL if you do, but you should not be made to, or looked down upon if you choose not to.

    I hate adoption. I realize that at times it may be necessarry, like with foster children, but I still hate it for the kids.

    Adoption comes from loss. No baby wants to be ripped from his mother, his mother is his entire world, he grew inside of her and knows NOTHING other than her. When the child grows, he is surrounded by people who all too often do not look like him, sound like him, have the same interest, ect. He can not possible have a good sense of identity, no matter how functional the adoptive family is.

    Adopted children (especially those who are adopted as infants, and international adoptee's) are expected to give up their family so they can have material things, then are expected to be grateful!

    I hate international adoption. I hate it because the largest reason they are relinquished (there are also kidnappings and rape to help fill the demand) is because they are to poor. They are basically forced into relinquishing one to feed the others. This could be fixed if, instead of adopting these children, you send the money that you would spend to raise them to the natural parents. However AP's would not get anything from this so I don't see that happening anytime soon. AP's like the idea that its better to have them shipped over here, stripped of their family, culture, identity, and the very core of who they are all because they can't have kids. I mean it is all about them right?

    I have no problem with people who adopt from foster care, I understand that there are sick people out there who abuse and neglect their children. These kids deserve love like anyone else. However, these kids still feel a loss of there natural family.

    I hate the adoption industry, they make money from selling children like livestock. They tell pregnant women that they are not worthy enough to be parents because they are too young, poor, single, uneducated, you name it. They have clients to serve (PAP's) and they need her baby!

    I hate how people glorify adoption as "wonderful" when it is most cetainly NOT!

  24. She comes on here for opinions but in the end her decision is all that matters.  She cannot let the rantings of a bunch of people she'll never meet dictate her life decisions.  I'm for whatever fits her life.  Period.  No judgments.

  25. I am anti abortion..I think that adoption is much better than abortion anyday..It's better to give the baby a chance.  If people don't like it then who cares?  They're not the ones in her situation. and it's her decision to make.

  26. I consider myself to be pro-life. Not to the extreme however that a lot of pro-lifers are. I do think that there are FEW circumstances where abortion is okay, most however are just because of mistakes. I don't however go around judging everyone who has had one or forcing my opinion down others throats. I believe that God has put a child into the world for a reason...It is not up to us whether or not it lives. With that being said, I think that adoption is VERY hard not only on the mother but also on the adoptee as he or she grows. I think that a lot of people choose to have an abortion rather than adopt there child because it is easier...less attachment. Out of sight out of mind mentality. So I don't really know the answer to you question, but abortions are for the mom, adoption is the mom putting herself aside and doing what is best for the child. Who am I/we to judge though? That is for God to do.

  27. Abortion is murder. Are we allowed to go around killing people like Scott Peterson did to Lacey and their unborn baby? It is not abandonment when you give your baby up for adoption. Adoption means that someone who really wants a family and can't have children of their own can adopt a baby or child and give them the love that they would give their biological children if they could have any. Nothing is wrong with adoption.

  28. I am not against abortion.

    Abortion and adoption, however (as has been said so many times on this board) are two separate decisions made at two different points in a pregnancy.

    One is to remain pregnant, the other is to parent.  

    Most of the people who comment that are anti-abortion are crazy anti-choicers who can't see the big picture.  Or baby-grabbers, who just want a baby, any baby, as long as it is healthy, newborn and white (and of course their preferred s*x).

    Abortion is a safe alternative to being pregnant.  However, it is a very personal decision and no one should tell a person whether they should have an abortion or not.  Only the person who is considering the abortion (and maybe her partner) can really know what is best for them (and their child).

    Janelle P: There are all ready children who need homes, of course they aren't the "little baby" of your dreams, but still, there is no need for a four year wait for a woman to not choose abortion when there are all ready so many children who need homes.  Please look into foster care.  This is the responsible thing to do. A lot of the children in foster care will age out of the foster care system without ever finding a home, why not open your home and your heart to these children?  I don't get this attitude at all.

  29. I tell prolife people that unless they ahve

    1. Adopted a child/teen (not just babies, babies are easily adopted)

    2. opened up a decent foster care

    3. donated money to orphanges/foster cares.

    If they have done one of those three things, then they have every right to be against women getting abortions.  But if they haven't done either of those things, then they need to keep their mouth shut.  

    You knwo what else is really sad, is when prolife people say "oh well if it was rape then its okay, but if it wasn't then it is murder!"  What hypocrits huh?  

    Our foster cares and orphanges are so overcrowded it is ridiculous.  Speak to people who have grown up in foster cares, their life stories are frightening and depressing.

    I'm prochoice, if it is best for the young woman, for the fetus, etc... then it's none of my business to judge or insult them.  You wont be seeing me out there with a little sign.
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