Adoption...what are our chances?

Question

I'm a 26-year-old male and my wife is 30. We're both in decent health and we have a healthy, generous relationship even though we don't always get the individual personal time that we like. We've been together for 7 and married for 3. We have a son who is 35 months and we have invested in sharing a mortgage in a house with her parents and have enlarged it to 4000 sqft to accomodate us, her parents, our child and hopefully one more child. We've been trying to get pregnant for a 1.5 years and have had one 12 weeks miscarriage. I don't want to say exactly how much I make, but I'd call it middle-class. My wife stays home with our son and we are considering home-schooling mixed with public school related extracurricular activities and possibly some minor private schooling for our children. I have a GED with some minor technical college courses and she has a bachelor's degree in dietetics. We would like a child of any race that is approximately three years younger than our son.

Answer 1

GOOD CHANCES.

Answer 2

Do you not want any more biologial children? 1.5 years is not that uncommon to not get pregnant, the adoption would take a lot longer.

Answer 3

Chances are OK.  Call an agency and get a consultation.

Answer 4

The part about sharing your mortgage may be the part that holds you up when trying to adopt. They may view that you do not have the money to have your own home, so how will you have the money to support another child. However, if you were to maybe sell your house and move into something a little smaller and more affordable for your family things might look different. Also, the grandparents living there too might not be a winning combination.

However, as long as you can prove you have income, and have a good work history (not in jeporady of being fired), as well as room in your house for another child, your chances for adoption are pretty good. They'll interview your family/friends to make sure you are good and loving parents etc. They'll also want to make sure you can provide insurance for a new baby.

Answer 5

Pretty high. You don't have to married, in a relationship or making loads of money to adopt, and you sound like ideal candidates. However it will take a while, so be patient. I wish you the best of luck, I'm sure you'll make a great parent!

Answer 6

Your chances are great:) YOU can adopt. It will take awhile but if you would rather adopt then try to have children of your own then got and get it started. I know that my husabnd and I were married for a year and still didnt have a child of our own and thought adoption was a great idea.  You can foster or you can get started on your adoption papers. Good luck:)

Answer 7

Your chances sound good, but many adoption agencies are not keen on homeschooling.  Unless there are no nearby schools, they feel it hinders the socialization of the children.

They really do prefer parents who have an equal amount of education, because statistically, married couples have a smaller chance of divorce with equal education.  However, they DO like stay-at-home moms.

Adoption is expensive, emotional, and can take years.  Be prepared.

Answer 8

I think you could adopt, my friend belongs to the foster to adopt program through the state.  She just finalized on the adoption of her 3 year old adopted child.  It was fairly inexpensive going through this program.