Adoptive father or biological father... who do you consider to be the true father?

Question

For those who asked, I wasn't adopted. Just asking.

Answer 1

If you adopt then the biological dad doesn't want responsability. You will always be his dad , from beginning tell him he is loved and you picked him out don't keep adoption hidden, problems if he finds out and you didn't tell him. once you adopt that child is forever yours.

Answer 2

The adoptive father......you are the one that raises that child and takes care of him or her. Anyone can make a baby, but it takes a man to raise one.

Answer 3

I will say the one who was most involved in the child's life and education. The one who showed he cared and tried to be there to offer support. It is not just the money, it is not just being the procreator, it includes sentiment and living.

Answer 4

Adoptive, because they are were the ones that were there for the child. Sometimes blood ties have no meaning. It's important to know, but it's who was there that counts.

Answer 5

As far as I am concerned, I am my sons dad, no matter who donated the sperm.  He was adopted at 3 days old, and is now 3, I am the one who took him home from hospital, changed his diapers, made his bottles, held him in the night when he cried, play with him every single day, listen to whats on his mind, will get him his first bike, teach him to ride it, know all his favorite things, the only one he calls daddy is me..... and therefore, i am his daddy.

Answer 6

The one that was there when you were growing up. The one that bought you your first bike. The one who punished you when you were naughty. The one who paid for all the stuff you have.

Any one can be a father it takes someone special to be a Daddy!!

Answer 7

I only had one - the biological.  BUT, I think that the father is the one who cares for you, loves you unconditionally, and wants you around forever.

Answer 8

Father is a title that needs to be earned...I am adopted and I have never met my "biological father" yes I do wonder at times what he is like, but  the "biological" father gave up all rights at the time of adoption to be called father by that child! The man who raised me and helped mold me into what I am today gets the honor to be called father!

Answer 9

k im not adopted. so outside-looking-in opinion.

i think that it isn't a one-or-the-other answer.

to me a father is someone who loves you and would do anything to keep you safe. even if it means giving you up to someone that may take better care of you, or adopting you simply cause they want YOU!

a biological could just be a sperm donor, or he could be someone that is just doing what he thinks is best for you.

however i think that it must be easier to be the father figure, if you have experienced the majority of the person's life. that way you know them better and are able to help them in a more personally-suited way.

Answer 10

I think whoever does the child rearing and is always there for the child.

Answer 11

I'm answering here b/c I am an adoptive mother. The adoptive father is the father, he is there to love and nurture, raise, hug, kiss, tuck in, and my husband is the one who holds my baby girl when she is sick, not the sperm donor. I really get bugged when someone calls her birthparents her mom or dad, she is with her mom and dad, my husband and I. We took her in, we raised her, we give her love and affection. Granted, w/o the birthparents we wouldn't have her, but we are her mom and dad. Noone else! Sometimes ppl dont think about the feelings of the adoptive parents, its easy to overlook!

Answer 12

the one who raised you... the one who wiped your behind, gave you a bath, wiped your snotty nose, taught you to ride a bike, helped you with your homework, tucked you in at night...etc etc etc..... ONE sperm does not a father make...

Answer 13

Your parents are the people who love and raise you.

I also believe that if you have relatives who are also a critical part of a child's upbringing they are also a secondary parent.

"It takes a village" is true.

Answer 14

Adoptive father. Hands down. My adoptive father is my dad. It takes a very speical person to be a dad. Anyone can be a "father". Getting someone pregnant is not that hard a thing to do... but being there, for everything both good and bad, and doing it for someone who is not biologically your own... that is one special person.

Answer 15

the adoptive father... duh...

Answer 16

We do not need to be divisive here!

A birthfather can make a loving decision just by signing a Waiver for the child to be adopted, by just not contesting the adoption, or by being fully involved in the adoption.  We must not discount this important role, which allows for the child to be adopted!  (Even if he is not active or present!)

But a Daddy -- well that is the man who is lucky enough to be able to kiss their child goodnight, save for college, and teach their child how to throw a ball!  This is the essence of fatherhood.

But we should honor, no matter what the situation, the birthfather.  For without him, no matter how much or how little he contributed to the child, there would not be this beautiful child who is our own!

Answer 17

The true father is the one who acts like the father and fills all the responsibilities of the role. The one who held you when you cried, rocked you to sleep, helped you learn to read and write, worries about you and thinks about you all the time even when you aren't around, takes you to all your doctor visits, and over all is the father in every sense of the word. The one you can turn to and think to yourself I hope I am as good of a parent as he was to me. You can be blood related through a sperm bank but that does not make that man your father. Blood means nothing its whats in your heart that matters. I have two children who are adopted by their step-father. They will tell anyone who asks that the donor is not their father and never was they told my ex that they found their father and its their step-dad. They are only 2 and 4 yrs old but they know who their father is and its the man who tucks them in at night and says he loves them and truly means it.

Answer 18

My dad was adopted by his dad. His real dad he only met once when he was a kid...he told me that he walked in the room said "hi, how are you?" my dad said "I am good" and that was the only conversation he had with him. I didn't even realize my dad was adopted by my grandpa untill I was about ten (wasn't a secret, I guess I was just oblivious). Whenever we talk about my dads biological father we always call him his "real dad". When we talk about his adoptive dad we just call him his dad our grandpa. It didn't change the way I thought of my grandpa at all. My grandpa recently passed away and it would be kinda neat to meet my real grandpa...weird at the same time.

Answer 19

My son, who is 14, considers my current husband as his true father.  He has been with him since age of 4.  He adopted him when he was 9 but the bond was already there and he has called him dad since he was 5.  A true father is the one who is there for him and loves him unconditionally.

Answer 20

depends on who rasies him up. But truly, its the biological. it just depends on the love

Answer 21

well technically the biological father but i think it should be the adoptive father because they would want to get the child and would not just go "oh yea lets just get that one"... they would find the right one and if ur the biological you pretty much have to be the father and if not then u would give them away and they would not be the true father...

Answer 22

adoptive father sence bio father denied paturnity,adoptive father sat in a cold tub when had high fevros ,changed daiper ,made bottles at 2 am  took  to 1st day of school ect

Answer 23

The father is the man who raises the individual from child to adult. The person who teaches, loves, nurishes and charishes the child is the father, the dad, and the protector.

The biological father is nothing more than DNA and single good time event - maybe.

Answer 24

Biological father=sperm donor. Any guy can get a girl pregnant.

Daddy=the guy that has been there for him/her, when they were sick, need food, need comfort, need clothes, need diapers, were scared, were hurt etc.

My grandpa told me something very important when I was very young and that was "Any man can father children but a it takes a true man to be a father." He raised four children.

1-Biological daughter-My mom

2-mom's stepsister (my grandpa 2nd wifes from a previous marriage and still raised her even after her mom died)

3-Michael (may he RIP July 26th, 1997) from, the woman I know as my grandma, his third wives previous marriage, offically adopted him.

4-Biological son of him and his third wife.

Papa and Mimi still married 30 years.

Answer 25

As an adoptee - the ADOPTIVE father.  

Hands down. No question.

Answer 26

I'm adopted and my adopted dad is now dead from alcoholism,he dies when i was 18....since then i have found my biological father and our bond is quite strong I'm very much like him and have no bad feelings towards him....my adopted father obviously had his faults with his severe drinking problem and wasn't always the best father but he did do allot of the stuff for me fathers do that cannot be replaced....like first bike and putting up with my tantrums and i loved him very much...i don't think i could say who i classed as my true father.....i see two very different people with very different connections to myself  and i would struggle to say which one i felt was my real father....i try to see them as individuals both with different aspects its hard to compare...i believe that neither of them have been my true father but in other ways they both are completely.

there's my opinion on the matter,lol...hope it was insightful :)

Answer 27

The DAD is the one who had taken the time to be there and set a good example for the child, the 'father' is the one who donated 'genetic material'.

Answer 28

Both.  Acknowledging either to be true does not make the other false.

This is essentially the "nature versus nurture" debate that psychologists have debated for quite some time.

Answer 29

Well for medical purposes the father is the biological one. This is only because of medical issues surrounding genetics. It is necessary to establish a genetic marker in order to test for certain things. However the daddy is the one that takes care of you. You can call whichever one you want to Dad that is up to you. But your father is the one who is linked to you by genetic factors.

Answer 30

Biological father is the true father.

Adoptive father is the true dad.

Answer 31

i htink that it is whichever one takes care of you the most and shows you the most love, any man can hold the title of being a father but only one can truly step up and act like one